Yes conclusion jumping is dangerous. I am in fact a lady. He doesn't have any taste for guns. Should have been a sign lol.
He can be a super douche sometimes, but I have zero history of violence towards him or otherwise. And never been one for illegal activity or suicidal thoughts. So I should be good. Hopefully it turns out to be just a time thing.
I'm assuming this is one of the reasons they also ask for references?