cycbb486, This is what you said, causing me to state you were loading the 243 much too heavy.
The .243 from what I am finding is really hard on brass. I am using Winchester brass and I am not to sure how many firings I will get until the pockets get really loose but I am pretty sure I can tell they get looser with every firing. Federal brass is definately CR++. It does not last at all. The Win is better but I know for a fact not as well as Lapua
The swelling of primer pockets is the ultimate pressure indicator available to a hand loader. When this happens it means you are using pressures that are extreme, and definetely in the danger zone. Any shot could blow the brass a part, then parts of your rifle could be blown far and wide.
You are trying various brands of brass, attempting to find one stronger than the rest, that will handle the extreme pressure.
You state Federal brass is "CR++. I take that to mean you consider Federal brass as crap. This is a completely false assumption. Any component that an old time, reliable company like Federal turns out for handloaders, will handle all the pressures the rifle is designed to handle.
There are very strict world wide standards for every phase of shooting, including handloading components, that all manufaturers must adhere to.