Slug your bore to determine groove diameter.
For Cast Bullets:
- size revolver bullets for a snug fit in the exit holes of the cylinder, i.e. size as large as will chamber in the cylinder reliably
- for rifles, size for a snug fit in the chamber, i.e. the largest diameter you can chamber reliably regardless of bore and groove diameter.
For Jacketed:
- you rarely have much choice, but when you do, go for at least groove size. Over is ok, so if your gun will chamber 0.430" bullets, that's likely the way to go.