so after some reading and browsing, i'm really thinking that the Lee Pro 1000 progressive is the most likely candidate for me. it's maybe a bit tall, but in all other respects it seems to be what i need (and will be comfortable with). it's not too expensive either, from what i can see.
thanks for the pics and ideas that some of you provided when it comes to mounting it for minimal space! i think i can make it fit and be unobtrusive.
get yourself a lee hand primer- the autoprime, and be prepared to miss the odd primer, which you''ll have to clean station no 2 with compressed air to rid yourself of the powder charge, and clear the trough- ask the guy that has 3 of them-and keep the TROUGH FULL, that means filling the tray when it gets empty, so there's ALWAYS 10/12 in the system- the primer feed relies on gravity, and there must be sufficent primers in the cue to advance the feed- other than that, you can help things along with a 15 degree foward tilt , putting o rings or twist ties on the primer column, or use a pencil to advance the feed manually