Really Logan, you need not think that there is a "perfect" load out there. All there are, are, loads. That's why some folks shoot .22 RF, and some folks shoot .50BMG. And some folks shoot both, and a bunch in between.
Each bullet has a range of speeds, distance, and game size for which it will be adequately effective. No bullet will be the be-all, end-all perfect solution for any field circumstance. Nor will any muzzle velocity, or bullet diameter, or bullet material.
Generally, long pointy bullets fly flatter and buck the wind better than short blunt bullets. Heavy blunt bullets generally get inside better, even at much slower velocities, assuming the shooter can get it to strike where it can get in. Rainbow trajectories simply limit the range at which it is proper to attempt shots on game.
All of which is to say, don't obsess about having the best load. Obsess about staying within book, being meticulous, keeping meticulous records, and actually loading some rounds. And, while some folks have managed to blow up guns, break fingers, blind themselves, and yes, I believe even kill themselves with boo boos, well, so do automobile operators, every day.
Follow your loading manual's most basic safety guides - only one kind of powder on the table at once, check and recheck bullet weight, style, caliber, powder, and then get at it. Empty powder measures when you are done charging the cases. This avoids the common mix-ups of wrong powder emptied into wrong can - it happens. Or thinking you have powder x in the reservoir when you left its faster twin last time you loaded. Get one of those cookbook stands so you can keep the loading manual open, clipped onto the appropriate page - yup, guys have toasted lovely guns because the page flipped itself between look-up and set-up!
But really. Turn your head on, stuff some powder into some cases, and shoot. In about ten years, you will have made most of the boo-boos possible, no harm done, and you will be a handloader. Share your journey - we all like to laugh at others' misfortunes, and we can all learn something.