Take a hand press to the range. Load the same case several times. If the pocket stays tight for 5 fireings you're good to go. If it loosens after a couple, better back er down.
This is exactly the procedure I have used. Load the same brass over and over. As you say, if the primer pockets stay tight, and the bolt doesn't stick on opening, you are not using an overload in that rifle.
Another little scare tactic that was introduced to the loading manuals, maybe 20 or 30 years ago, was calling the prescribed charge weight, "Maximun." Prior to this the loading charts just showed one weight of powder, that is, no "Minimum," load, just one weight and it was named, "Charge."
The governing body that sets standards for cartridge loads, the SAAMI standards, uses a certain pressure for a cartridge load. The factory loads are designed on these standards and the loading manuals follow suit. The loads given should, for the most part, be about equal to a factory loaded cartridge.
I don't know of any shooters who are afraid to shoot a factory load in their rifle. Yet, virtually every hand loader on here will not start out using a "Maximum," load, because that might blow the action up in his face!
Would he be as scared if the manual simply stated the charge weight of powder given should equal a factory load in his rifle?