You can determine OAL simply and without the benefit of expensive measuring tools, although they are almost always worth the cost. Begin by seating a flat based bullet nose down in a de-primed case, then chamber that dummy cartridge. The base of the bullet will contact the lands and as you gradually close the bolt, you'll push the bullet into the case, resulting in a precise measurement from the bolt face to the lands. Precise that is, provided the action isn't slammed closed, and provided the cartridge is extracted gently. This cartridge should be kept for reference. Every thousand rounds or so, another dummy cartridge can be made up to keep track of your throat erosion.
Next take the bullet you intend to load, place it nose first into the muzzle of your rifle, and with firm pressure on the bullet, turn it so the rifling scribes a line around the bullet. This line denotes the front of the bearing surface of the bullet. Make up a second dummy cartridge using this bullet seated normally. Then the scribed line us at the same length from the case head as the base of the bullet in the first dummy cartridge, your bullet is seated touching the lands.
Should you want to make adjustment from this point on, once you know the pitch of the threads on the seating stem, it can be used as a micrometer, allowing you to seat your bullet at or a precise distance from the lands. If your seating stem has 20 turns per inch thread (Redding) each full turn equals .050" or if it has 28 TPI (RCBS) that equals .037" per full turn.