I had not read about "matched" shell holder? For many cartridges here, I have RCBS dies with RCBS shell holder. But is also multiple with Lee, Lyman, and other shell holders, and similar brands for dies - some are "matched" - a great number are mixed brands. What you want is concentricity - regardless "matched" brand or not. I would think any shell holder needs to have a bit of "wiggle" so the case can move a smidgeon if it wants to on the trip into the die. And goes to the press ram and shell holder notch - as mentioned, I happen to use RCBS Rockchucker press, but most any brand of shell holder fits, aligns and has been used at one time or another.
Is very possible to use shell holders and get various sized brass. The idea is that there is a "solid" dimension from where the case head sits in that shell holder, then usual RCBS instructions say to have that same shell holder top face contact tightly to bottom of the FL die - many suggest that you get your RCBS press to "cam over" at the top of the stroke to ensure that everything in shell holder, die, and press linkages are "tight" - therefore repeatable. Changing out shell holders part way through a run might change lengths. Repeatability seems to be important for best accuracy - maybe makes no difference at all whether the round goes "bang" or not.
I was re-forming one kind of brass into another. For whatever reason, I felt I needed to get those cases a few thousandths more up into the die. I was not certain that was really the issue, so did not want to permanently alter either the shell holder or the die. I discovered that I could slide a shim from a feeler gauge under the brass case, when it was in the shell holder - I think was .004" or .005" or so. That would have the effect of forcing the case that much further up into the die, without making any other changes. Turned out to not be the issue that I had to resolve, but I did discover that as a way to force a case further into a FL die, than the "normal" set up. I do not own any, but apparently some makers make sets of shell holders to buy that have a series of less height from where the case head sits to the top face of those shell holders. Others suggested that the bottom face of the die could be ground off, to get that case further up in that die. I did not want to buy that shell holder series, and I did not want to permanently alter my die until I had figured out what was needed - the feeler gauge thing let me find out I was making a mistake - as it happened, the "problem" was the 1/16" or so just ahead of the belt was "fatter" in the die, than in the rifle's chamber - had to get a Larry Willis die to solve that one. That was a bit "twisted" because I wanted the case to "headspace" on the chamber shoulder, not on the chamber's recess for the case belt - which was what everything was set up for.