damndirtyape said:
Are you pushing hard enough on the bolt to make the extractor jump over the rim of the case? This probably isn't good for the extractor.

That's not a very logical conclusion, since every time the rifle cycles, the extractor jumps over the rim of the case, and at pretty high speed, to boot.
I have loaded .223 for my AR-15, and never did anything special, and never had a bit of trouble. Mind you, by the time I got an AR-15, I had some experience loading the caliber for a Mini-14, so that might have helped me work the bugs out.
The first time I dropped a handload in the chamber of my Mini, it wouldn't go all the way in. So, like an idiot, I pulled the bolt back and let it fly, figuring a good whack would overcome whatever little bit of gunk was binding things up.
It took me 3 days to clear the round out of the chamber.
I was using a roll crimp, and some of my cases were longer than others. When the long case ran into the crimping ring, there was too much material there, and the case "adjusted" itself by collapsing slightly at the shoulder, which flared it up to a larger diameter, which jammed itself very solidly in the chamber when forced.
You should do the following:
1. Full-length resize a case, then see if it drops into the chamber
2. Seat a bullet to within ~1mm of its final position, and see if it drops into the chamber
3. Seat the bullet as far as you can go without applying any crimp, and see if it drops into the chamber
4. Finish the crimp, and see if it drops into the chamber
Let us know at which point the whole thing goes to hell.