How is the recoil on 44 mags, I wasnt bugged by the 460 S&W one bit.
Also how is the grip on N Frames vs L frames, Id say the x frame was near my upper limit for grip size.
lastly if you had the choice of a 629 4.2 vs a model 69 at the same price shipped, what would you take?
I find that .44Mag from an N frame has a sharper punch to the hand than the big and heavy X frame .460. There's a massive push from the .460 but that's the thing. It IS a push more than a CRACK! A very short and sharp push but a push none the less.
The grips made by various outfits that fit the L and N frame guns are all around the same size in the hand for any given model. They all cover the frame other than the back strap. And some even do that. So fitting them to your hands isn't an issue. You just need to find the brand and model that fits your hands if you don't like the stock S&W grips.
One thing I have found is that for full power loads from any magnum revolver you want grips that fit your hand well. Any small gap means that the gun can pick up some speed before it makes contact and that greatly increases the "SMACK!" power vs the strong push. I greatly toned down the pain involved in shooting my Ruger Super Blackhawk by simply making and installing a better fitting set of grip scales. Now full power .44Mags are surprisingly pleasant to shoot and enjoy them for the big BOOM!. But when the grips didn't fit my hand well the gun moved around too much and it hurt to where I didn't want to shoot full power loads.
Bottom line though is that a full house .44Mag in the lighter L frame gun might just hurt due to the lower weight. Setting it up with a good fitting set of grips for your hand might aid that but it may still hurt simply due to the power to weight combination. There's no way to tell short of trying one.
I know that for my part and from actually enjoying the .460 I would stick with the N frame. I've shot a few and even those hurt my hand. I'd counter that with a swap of the grips or making my own grips to fill out my grip correctly for me. But I'm pretty sure I'd still be at my recoil limit with that gun.
Have you shot a Ruger in .454Casull? I have and I say "no thanks" now. If you're a dyed in the wool recoil slut than I'd suggest you consider the Ruger Super Redhawk in .454 Casull. More nerve damage stored up in that gun than the big X frame by far.
Any way you cut it though you NEED to get into reloading to cut the cost of shooting any of these hand cannons to a manageable level. It is just not an option, it's a requirement.