Let the rifle rest natuarly pointing at the target without you holding the rifle...
Then look through the scope without touching the rifle...
Move your head up and down and side to side just a little and watch to see if the reticle stays in place relative to the target or if the reticle moves in relation to the target as you move around. If you do this right you will look like a baseball pitcher shaking off or agreeing to the pitch call from the catcher.
If the reticle remains in the same position no matter where you move, then you have correct parallax.
If the reticle is moving when you move, then your parallax needs to be adjusted.
All too often, especially when you do not have 20 20 vision, the best parallax setting is not where you have the best focus.
Some guys say that when shooting groups, you need to stay on the rifle the same way the whole time for all shots in the string... I think this is just a method to shoot good groups with parallax set incorrectly. If it is correct, then the POI will not change because you moved a little.
As for adjusting parallax to eliminate mirage, well... that's impossible number one and number two... why would you want to? Mirage tells you how to read the conditions and you need to see the mirage to compensate for those conditions.
If you were to find a certain scope that was better at hiding mirage than some other scope, it would be because the scope has a very narrow field of focus... so narrow that only mirage that occurs within a short zone would be visible and therefore you would not see the mirage very clearly. This is not to suggest that in such a case the image would be clear, because it would not. The image would be washed out and blurred in areas that are out of focus and you would just see a distorted image that looks like bad glass.
There are guys who use a spotting scope to read mirage where they set the focus to about the 2/3 mark, that way they get twice the field of focus that you would get from a scope which is only 1/2 of what might appear reasonably clear.