The Musings of a Wolverine. May Edition

I recently received a phone call from one of my daughters who is married and raising her family in the USA. My Grandson had hit a fellow student at school resulting in a bloody lip, from the sound of it my Grandson was more than likely the guilty party. He received a three-day suspension, OK fair enough, I guess that is how schools handle things these days. Then we were told the incident was going to court as the parents of the “victim” were pressing charges. Bloody ridiculous I thought, what a waste of valuable resources and I thought back to my school days.

I went to a co-ed (Boys and Girls) private boarding school in the UK. I was a mediocre student at best. I was not really a star on the sports field but as I was built like a prize racing snake I could run, no one could beat me in the track events. I was not really a popular kid in class, I was seen as a weedy runt and always picked on by the older boys. This degenerated into bullying, to the extent that I felt my life was sheer hell. I wasn’t strong enough to fight back and all this was made worse by the girls in class looking down their noses at this little runt.

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Finally, I snapped! No I did not go on a rampage and shoot up the school! The last straw came in singing classes. I can’t sing to save my life, I hated the lady who tried to teach us and I am sure the feeling was mutual. The main bully, Martin sat behind me. We had two rows of benches in the Music Salon, girls on the left and boys on the right. I had been set up as the only place left for me was on the second to last bench from the back - I was normally elbowed into the front row but not today. Martin sat behind me, he took a steel tape measure out of his pocket, removed a sewing pin from the label on his blaser, caught it under the clip on the tape and he could feed out the tape and prick me in the butt. The singing started, I got jabbed again and again, all the boys sitting near me thought it was very funny. Finally I just lost it.

I jumped up over my bench stood in front of Martin and hammered into him left right, left right I never gave him a chance to do anything. He sat cowered, his arms over his head as I weighed in. I have no idea where my strength was coming from but I knew I was hurting him. Left right, left right, nonstop, my left fist hitting the right side of his head, my right fist hitting his left side.

I remember I never swore or said a word, all my focus was on hurting this bully, tears of rage flowed down my cheeks, my fists were turning numb but I just kept going and going. I was dimly aware that the boys had all stopped singing, the girls opposite us slowly stopped, apart from Heather and Anne, the two “goody two shoes” of the class sitting in the front row and eventually they finally stopped too. The whole class was silent. Now as I was still pummelling away, I became aware of the grand piano tinkling on in the background, I carried on with renewed vigour, something was going to stop soon. Miss Moore, the old music teacher stood up, shaking with rage she pointed her arm to the door and yelled at David (The class prefect) TAKE HIM OUT! TAKE THAT ANIMAL OUT OF HERE. TAKE HIM TO MR BENNETT. You could have heard a pin drop in that room, now my life was about to change in ways I never understood at the time.

I stopped hitting Martin and David took hold of my arm, and with a huge grin on his face he said come on, let’s go. Mr Bennet was the senior House Master, he taught history and sports, was also the Cadet Officer and was responsible for maintaining discipline with the boys. Mr Bennet carried a cane with him almost every day, it varied from day to day, and it ranged from a leather covered army swagger stick, thin hazel walking stick, heavy blackthorn walking stick to an evil split piece of bamboo. (This last stick was found in the wood work shop a year later when we all took turns sawing a piece off until it was destroyed.) David stopped in the hall, we consulted the school time table to find where Mr Bennet was teaching and off we headed. David delighted in telling me how much trouble I was really in, I would probably get expelled for sure, I wondered how I would ever tell my parents. My Mum would go crazy, I could always run away but Dad had my Passport hidden. Mr Bennett was teaching history to the senior girls class, Oh the embarrassment.

David knocked on the door to the classroom Mr Bennett was teaching in. “Come in, what the hell do you two want? Can’t you see you are disturbing my class? David explained that I had attacked the school bully in the middle of singing class. The class broke into hysterical laughter, it was chaos. QUIET! Mr Bennett roared, did I detect a faint smile? No not possible. Mr Bennett turned to me “Is this true?” What did I have to lose now?! I told my story from start to finish. Mr Bennett instructed David to fetch Martin and his cane that was on the hall table.

After hearing Martin’s side to the story Mr Bennett announced that I would get the cane for fighting in class, six on each hand. Martin you will also get six on each hand and six on your bum for starting it. I was delighted - a score of 12 to 18 was good I thought. I was motioned to step forward and stretch out my arm, I held my hand out knuckles up, Mr Bennett raised the cane straight up, the class gasped as he brought the cane down stopping inches from my hand. I never flinched. He gently tapped my hand with the cane “Turn your hand over”. (Up to this point I had only received the “Ruler” in class, administered for minor infractions and always across the knuckles from a 12 inch wooden ruler.) I turned my hand over, rock solid and never flinched at all.

The caning started, my hand felt like it was on fire, simply too numb to feel any pain! My eyes gazed out of the bay windows at the rooks that were wheeling over their nest, these were in the tall elm trees across the river at the bottom of the gardens. The small panes of glass were very old, and some were distorted so as the rooks passed across them their wings changed, their single wing changed into a “biplane” wing, sometimes they had one head sometimes two. Those images are burnt into my memory for ever.

Mr Bennett telling me to change hands brought me back to realty and the process started again, I followed the rooks with my eyes. The caning complete I stepped back; I was really going to enjoy watching Martin getting his. I was pleased to see he flinched at every stroke and the class started to snicker.

Suddenly a voice called “What are you waiting for Hipwell? Want some more? Get out” I turned to the door, I reached for the small round brass door knob, to my horror I found I had no grip with either hand, even with both hands I couldn’t turn the knob, now what to do?

Sitting next to the door was Deborah, she was a gorgeous blue-eyed buxom blonde. Deborah got up and as she stepped forward to open the door for me, she discreetly wiped a tear off each of her cheeks and then flashed me the most beautiful smile I had ever seen. I was elated, girls like Deborah never even spoke to me, I knew life was going to change.

Looking back now at that eventful day in school I see it just as part of growing up, certainly in that day my treatment was normal. The bullying and teacher favorites etc. were unfortunate but I think it better prepared kids for the real world. I believe the system I was raised in was easier than the system kids are in today. Today a parent threatens legal action if their child was hit at school, in my day I took my “licks” and never even told my parents.

Keep your powder dry.

Mr Wolverine
 
Thank you for sharing the story. Different era for sure with different methods for countering bullying. I hope your daughter can avoid the lawsuit and subsequent financial penalties.
 
I am sure most of the "old timers" have similar unacceptable stories based on re-evaluating history using
current morals.

What do you think the chance of a child having this life-changing event occurring today in a world where everyone gets a ribbon for participating, you cannot fail a grade as it will stigmatize the child, writing a sentence means "what do you want it to be", and 4 divided by two requires 5 different methods to solve in order to ensure someone can get an answer base on different learning styles.

History will probably show that the single biggest issue that resulted in the downfall of Canada will havde been the repatriation of he Canadian constitution which caused the collective good of "US" to be replaced by the self-centered "ME".
 
Hi Mr. Wolverine
I am sorry to hear about your daughters and her families troubles.

You made me go back in time... Remembering my father describing similar treatments that they suffered during school here in Canada. He harped about the old Seminarians enjoying dolling out the punishments, describing it as “pleasures” they enjoyed while exacting the many strikes on his and the other pupils hands, knuckles, palms and finger tips. I went to high school In the 80’s, teachers were softer by that then... humiliation, denigration and screaming was pretty much their tools to “deal” with us.

Sir, you have a talent for writing, reading it was quite enjoyable.

Thank you for sharing your memories, your experiences and your woes.

I hope all end well,

The photo was a great addition.

Have a great day!

Aum
 
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Rights of passage, good story. Bottom line is that you always have to stand up to the bully. When I was in school, I was strong but mild mannered, a bully kept bugging me until one day I grabbed him by the throat and held him up against a wall, he never bothered me again. To grow up to be a man you need to deal with this stuff and not listen to the toxic masculinity BS they are spouting now.
 
I absolutely enjoyed that read. I would love to hear the rest of it...and then you took up residence at Leaconfield house and told Peter Wright how to bring down Maclean, Burgess, Philby, and Blunt !!!???
 
That story certainly brings back memories. I received the strap (a black and orange rubber one) a couple of times. After the first whack you couldn't feel anything. If you didn't show some discomfort, the principal really put some muscle in it. I think it was a worse experience for him than me. Lol.
 
Great story, thanks for sharing! I can imagine millenials reading something like that and thinking "oh..the horror". I just broke the half-century mark a little over 5 weeks ago, and grew-up as a kid in New Brunswick in the 70s. If ever there was a time and place to have to hold your own at school, that was it. As a kid from an Irish (heritage), Catholic family..the only thing worse than "the strap" at school (which I got to experience more than once) was the perceived shame that punishment would bring the family. Whatever I got at school would be trumped by what my late father would dish-out once he found out. In fact, it wasn't considered out of line to be at a friend's house....and when caught doing something we shouldn't be doing, THAT parent would punish you like their own. Wasn't only considered acceptable, it was encouraged. lol Basically, you weren't safe to be an a**hole no matter where you were, but boy...we sure tried.

The end result was that allot of kids were just pretty well-behaved, but for sure...there was a heightened respect for adults when anyone you come in contact seemed to be allowed to crank you if you stepped out of line. At least the adults in our small community where everyone knew everyone else.

Guess I'll end my comments by saying that in spite of being a big guy for my age, I got my fair share of static from other kids at school partly because we moved around so much. (dad working his way up through the company he worked for) Meant that my presence at every new school was a threat to the resident tough guy, and a number of times...I'd end-up in the principle's office on my first day of school. I learned early on (in NB) that things were so likely to escalate that it would be smart to throw the first punch. Took getting a tooth busted-out by a guy half my size to learn that lesson. Anyhow, moved to Ontario in '81 and the first kid that threatened me got an instant, word-free reply from my right fist. I'd been through it too many times. I remember the principle's first words to me; "I don't know how you solve problems in New Brunswick, but we don't just hit people here in Ontario". :)

Thanks again for your story, brought back lots of memories of my own.
 
Thank you for sharing Mr.Hipwell.

The biggest lie told in today’s schools is that bullying won’t be tolerated... It goes on, just as before...
 
Great story Mr. Wolverine, I always enjoy your musings.

I would like to point out I was born in 91, making me a millennial. My similar story happened when I was 14 so in 2005. I was a lot like Mr. Wolverine, skinny but could run, look down by a lot of people. One day in gym class during a long distance run of laps around the gym this kid Joey started the verbal bullying behind me as per usual. Like Mr. Wolverine this guy had at least 50lbs on me. I rudely told him off which had been working. Today he decided to slap my back hard enough to take the wind the out of me. I tried chasing to end it but he took off because I was winded. Some how the teacher ignored missed it or ignored. What ever, I let the whole thing go but was still kinda pissed off. A little while later (still during this same run) he came around behind and started the verbal stuff again. So I pivot and punch right in mouth, was aiming for the nose but he was taller than me. With his run into my fist and m fist going the other way I am sure felt quite the hit. I just continued on the run, again the teacher either missed or ignored it. Not sure how with a class size of 25(small town AB). Needless to say I never had a problem with him or his friends ever again, and I had high school with him too.

Why did I share this story? I just want to point out that people categorized millennials incorrectly. The times changed when every 12 year old got a cell phone. Not because 90s kids think differently. My story had no teachers, no tattle tales, no video, no insta-snap-a-twit. No kid even had a cell phone in 2005, the one kid who did was made fun of actually.

Am I butt hurt because I get a called a millennial? No I don't really care. But the majority of people my age that I interact with don't meet the stereotypical sh!tty millennial. Before every rips down an entire generation for being soft maybe stop and think about who is orchestrating all these shenanigans. The people running the schools maybe? The helicopter parents that a raising the kids currently in school? Maybe the divide is in small towns and cities
 
Great story Mr. Wolverine, I always enjoy your musings.

I would like to point out I was born in 91, making me a millennial. My similar story happened when I was 14 so in 2005. I was a lot like Mr. Wolverine, skinny but could run, look down by a lot of people. One day in gym class during a long distance run of laps around the gym this kid Joey started the verbal bullying behind me as per usual. Like Mr. Wolverine this guy had at least 50lbs on me. I rudely told him off which had been working. Today he decided to slap my back hard enough to take the wind the out of me. I tried chasing to end it but he took off because I was winded. Some how the teacher ignored missed it or ignored. What ever, I let the whole thing go but was still kinda pissed off. A little while later (still during this same run) he came around behind and started the verbal stuff again. So I pivot and punch right in mouth, was aiming for the nose but he was taller than me. With his run into my fist and m fist going the other way I am sure felt quite the hit. I just continued on the run, again the teacher either missed or ignored it. Not sure how with a class size of 25(small town AB). Needless to say I never had a problem with him or his friends ever again, and I had high school with him too.

Why did I share this story? I just want to point out that people categorized millennials incorrectly. The times changed when every 12 year old got a cell phone. Not because 90s kids think differently. My story had no teachers, no tattle tales, no video, no insta-snap-a-twit. No kid even had a cell phone in 2005, the one kid who did was made fun of actually.

Am I butt hurt because I get a called a millennial? No I don't really care. But the majority of people my age that I interact with don't meet the stereotypical sh!tty millennial. Before every rips down an entire generation for being soft maybe stop and think about who is orchestrating all these shenanigans. The people running the schools maybe? The helicopter parents that a raising the kids currently in school? Maybe the divide is in small towns and cities

I think I'm the only one guilty of using the "millennial" term. :) I have my reasons, but apologies if any offense was taken=none intended. I know bullying has always been a factor, and always will be. What seems to have changed is the willingness to let kids try and sort this out on their own. We're in an era where every issue/condition has a name, and almost every ounce of bad behavior blamed on one of those named issues. I have two family members who work in schools, and a close friend of mine is also a teacher. I'm not exaggerating when I say that you can't even make-up the stories I hear. Very discouraging, and what's worse...when a parent is contacted to discuss a behavior issue relating to their kid, it's not at all uncommon for the parents to BLAME the school for the problem. Some of what I hear is limited to verbal abuse (kids to each other, kids to teachers/admin) but isn't limited to that. It's elementary schools I'm talking about, and I can't even relate most of what I know happens on this forum~full of adults. (presumably)
 
22lrguy you are the only one to use it in this thread and I am not trying to call you out. I am legit not offended. Its just a word. My statment is just a related generic statment that could be applied in many other threads
 
Great story, thanks for posting.
My last bout of fisticuffs occurred in Grade 5 when I too was hassled by a bigger kid by the bicycle stands, and I also snapped. It's amazing what a combination of adrenaline and attitude will do.
That's the last time I needed to punch someone, although the temptation comes back from time to time.
Sometimes there is a need for violence.
 
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