To the orig post, get a quality runout guage and use it OFTEN. It has saved me countless hours of guessing and fussing. Yes, I used to do the seat a bit/turn a bit but no longer. The runout guage let's you know what steps are working and where you need attention.
The biggest problem with seating dies isn't your method but the seating stem itself. Most of us use long pointy bullets. However, the average die, even comp ones, use a generic angle and depth on the seating stem. Some bullets simply don't fit and will always go in wonky no matter what you do.
Simple test. Take your die apart so you can get at that seating stem. Put a bullet into the stem. Does it bottom on the bullet ogive or the tip? I bet that if you have runout issues during seating, the bullet tip hits the top of the stem before the ogive more often then not.
Pretty hard to support the bullet when it is balancing on a point. Modifying the shape of the seating stem usually solves the issue. Once done, you shouldn't need to seat in steps.
As to chambering to figure out your leade length, it works like a charm. neck sizing works best for me. Just seat the bullet. Measure before and after chambering. I also put jiffy marker around the bullet so that the lands leave a mark. Keep reducing the OAL until the marks dissappear or at least you only have 1 or 2 marks left - and you thought your leade was concentric

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That is your 'on the lands' base measurement. From here, enjoy going up and down to tune your load. I usually don't bother fiddling with bullet jam leaving them all just off the lands. 10 thou off is usually just great IF the ammo is concentric (yep, even VLD Bergers). Having more jump doesn't hurt much either so don't fret about your shorter mag length.
I prefer to tune using very small powder increments instead. Does the same thing and I never have to worry about the 'moving' target.
Jerry