Wife Likes Guns, but not in the house (storage question)

The moment you get married, you're part of a unit that is two equal parts.

If you don't like compromise, or giving up a little bit of your wants for someone else's - marriage is not for you.

Just my 2 cents.

Real relationships are give and take, my wife loves and respects me and has no problems with my interests, up until the point she thinks that they are taking away from our family. That's it. A two way street, unless you ride independent.
 
Mauser Gdog:

Just make damn sure that you never let her take up knitting. It would be a lot easier for someone to get a hold of the needles and stab your brain through your eye hole than it wold be to break into the safe get the trigger lock off the gun etc..

It is about compromises after all.:p

Never bend over when it is a major issue such as firearms. Compromise on which restaurant you are going to eat at.
 
I ran into this with my son storing his restricted at my house.
Not a problem all you need to do is have your address changed on you fac/pol to the address that guns are stored at and have that address on you ATT
this is hoe CFO told us to do it.
 
Xman said:
My advice would be for you to open her purse, take your testicles back from it and tell her how things are gonna be. If she doesn't like it, she can move out.
Anyways, I know that what a stranger on the internet says to you can't possibly matter, but I hope that one day you come to realize that your life is yours to live.
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X2 on looking in her purse...lol
 
Mauser GDog said:
If your wife and her happiness are #1 then it's an easy compromise to make, regardless of how strongly you disagree with her stubborn outlook on storing firearms in the house.

If your right to store firearms in the house comes first, well, you might be with the wrong person.
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Hm. First off, you are not responsible for her happiness, she is. Secondly, what about your happiness? Thirdly, she doesn't just have an "outlook", she's declared herself to be in charge on this issue, and you're going along with that. Fourthly, it's not about a "right to store firearms", it's about your right to make reasonable decisions for you, without having to compromise. Fifthly and finally, if her right to veto firearms in the house comes first, then you ARE with the wrong person.

Threads like this come up fairly often here, and the consensus is that you either make your own decision, or you accept that from here on out, you'll have to ask your wife for permission to do anything she might disagree with.
Put another way, you've abdicated your own responsibility and handed her the power to make the rules.
 
A quote from Albert...:D
"A human being is a part of a whole, called by us _universe_, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest... a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty."
 
Gunney said:
...@Wendell: In Alberta, maybe. Not in Nova Scotia. - to what does this refer?
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I had made reference to a short-term ATT for the purpose of "temporary storage".

TDC mentioned that a properly licensed person who has a valid long-term ATT may take another person's registered restricted firearm(s) home from the range - with his own PAL, long-term ATT and the firearm(s) registration certificate(s) - without any requirement for any additional authorization(s) (such as the one that I had suggested).

Each province has it's own CFO. Each CFO chooses the language on each ATT that each CFO issues. They are not all the same. While the language in some provinces' will list certificate numbers, others do not. My long-term ATT, for example, is valid only for those firearms whose registration certificate number appears in print on my ATT.

You or I, meeting at the range, could not exchange pistols and then take the other's pistol home (legally) unless we had obtained a short-term ATT for that purpose. Apparently some long-term ATT's issued from some other provinces may permit this - legally - without requiring another ATT.
 
ken fowler said:
I ran into this with my son storing his restricted at my house.
Not a problem all you need to do is have your address changed on you fac/pol to the address that guns are stored at and have that address on you ATT
this is hoe CFO told us to do it.
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How does this work, is it then assumed that your son lives in two dwellings and has chosen dwelling A (your home) to use as the one on his RPAL and the restricted guns registration?
 
Wendell said:
I had made reference to a short-term ATT for the purpose of "temporary storage".

TDC mentioned that a properly licensed person who has a valid long-term ATT may take another person's registered restricted firearm(s) home from the range - with his own PAL, long-term ATT and the firearm(s) registration certificate(s) - without any requirement for any additional authorization(s) (such as the one that I had suggested).

Each province has it's own CFO. Each CFO chooses the language on each ATT that each CFO issues. They are not all the same. While the language in some provinces' will list certificate numbers, others do not. My long-term ATT, for example, is valid only for those firearms whose registration certificate number appears in print on my ATT.

You or I, meeting at the range, could not exchange pistols and then take the other's pistol home (legally) unless we had obtained a short-term ATT for that purpose. Apparently some long-term ATT's issued from some other provinces may permit this - legally - without requiring another ATT.
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Yeah, here in ON my ATT refers to restricted firearms registered in my name, so I cannot transport any borrowed firearms under that ATT.
 
stevebc said:
Hm. First off, you are not responsible for her happiness, she is. Secondly, what about your happiness? Thirdly, she doesn't just have an "outlook", she's declared herself to be in charge on this issue, and you're going along with that. Fourthly, it's not about a "right to store firearms", it's about your right to make reasonable decisions for you, without having to compromise. Fifthly and finally, if her right to veto firearms in the house comes first, then you ARE with the wrong person.

Threads like this come up fairly often here, and the consensus is that you either make your own decision, or you accept that from here on out, you'll have to ask your wife for permission to do anything she might disagree with.
Put another way, you've abdicated your own responsibility and handed her the power to make the rules.
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At first, I took offence to this post, and took it personally, which is understandable as it's directed at me personally. :D

After re-reading it, I see what you are saying and it's made me think.
P.S. abdicated: To relinquish (power or responsibility) formally.

Great word of the day!
 
Well...I guess this means we won't be seeing Mauser GDog's wife in the Girls and Guns thread anytime soon.;)
 
And remember, if you're in that kind of relationship, it's always easier to ask for forgiveness than for permission...

Just sayin'...

P.S.
Just curious, what do you think would happen if you said to her... "Honey, I hear you but after some consideration, I am going to have to go with my version of things; buy the guns I want and keep them in my house".
 
Xman said:
And remember, if you're in that kind of relationship, it's always easier to ask for forgiveness than for permission...

Just sayin'...

P.S.
Just curious, what do you think would happen if you said to her... "Honey, I hear you but after some consideration, I am going to have to go with my version of things; buy the guns I want and keep them in my house".
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i had a similar situation with my gf .. despite the fact she was living for free in my house, while i supported her because she lost her job.. and she would put up a huge stink if i bought a gun, or something for one, or wanted to go shooting

so i banished the queen of the harpys back to hades from whence she came..
i now live happily alone with my cat voltron and all of my guns :D


but you're married already so you're screwed :D:D
 
That's just it. It's never all or nothing. If she knows that it's what you do and you're not going to change who you are as a person; as long as she knows you're not doing anything that would harm your family, you're good.

I'm sure if you were into cars and guitars instead of guns, she wouldn't have an issue.


"You're not bringing that Gibson Les Paul in my house! What if one of the kids gets ahold of it, he could turn out like Keith Richards!!"

Maybe that's a bad example.
:D
 
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