Wife Likes Guns, but not in the house (storage question)
- Thread starter Mauser GDog
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IMHO, I think this thread got a little bit out of hand with the leave her do your own thing comments....easy to say if its not your feelings and like the OP said is not an option. I would just go buy a safe and fill it with guns. In all honesty what is she going to do? Fight and get #####y with ya for a week and get over it.....once presented with the reality of guns in the house she will get over it....maybe start to enjoy them just as much as you do.
Like i said just MHO
Josh
Like i said just MHO
Josh
saskgunowner101
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Must be nice!! While my girlfriends interest in firearms is nowhere near what mine is, that racket wouldn't work around here.
She's one of those that picks up on the difference between M-213's and Toks by seeing the safety or a larger ejection port on the slide.....or the top of the slide. Spooky I tell you.
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This thread reminds me why it's better to have a gf'd than a wife. She moved in but kept her on place at my insistence.
Live and learn.
Live and learn.
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Must be nice!! While my girlfriends interest in firearms is nowhere near what mine is, that racket wouldn't work around here.
My wife can not tell a AR15 from a shotgun and I'll cool with that
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canadaman30
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Tell your wife she needs to get her car and alcohol away from the house because they cause 1000's times more deaths than guns. Or be a man and tell her straight up this is what your doing and thats the way it is period.
This is a very a delicate subject and you have received some very good advice here.
Personally, I would avoid the "the h*ll with this! I'm the man and I do what I want" line. That used to work well some 150 yrs ago, but not so much today. Sooner or later you'll have to renew your license and your wife will have to sign it. Good luck with that.
Communication and putting your own interests and desires very clearly are the best approach IMHO.
In my specific case: my wife isn't pro-gun and isn't really comfortable around them too much. She also knows that I grew up going hunting with my grandpa and understands and respects my hobby. Curiously enough, she's cool with long guns, but when I got my handgun, she just asked to try to avoid letting my 6 yrs old (step) daughter seeing it, as we don't want her father to start complaining or anything. I just inspect/clean my handgun after 9pm, no big deal. The girl has handled the rifle and said "Woa! This is what you hunting bunnies with?!" Put a huge grin on my face!
Be very careful with giving ultimatums. I just spent 3 weeks alone in the house and realized how empty it feels without my wife and the girl. As they say, often you don't appreciate what you have until you loose it.
+1 on encouraging your wife to pursue her hobbies and letting you do the same. My wife DID pick up knitting and I pushed her to get into that tap dance class she has been dreaming about for so long. Makes it a lot easier when I want to go to the range and spend some time by myself.
My mother always says: "clear rules, long friendship".
Good luck and let us know how it turns out.
Personally, I would avoid the "the h*ll with this! I'm the man and I do what I want" line. That used to work well some 150 yrs ago, but not so much today. Sooner or later you'll have to renew your license and your wife will have to sign it. Good luck with that.
Communication and putting your own interests and desires very clearly are the best approach IMHO.
In my specific case: my wife isn't pro-gun and isn't really comfortable around them too much. She also knows that I grew up going hunting with my grandpa and understands and respects my hobby. Curiously enough, she's cool with long guns, but when I got my handgun, she just asked to try to avoid letting my 6 yrs old (step) daughter seeing it, as we don't want her father to start complaining or anything. I just inspect/clean my handgun after 9pm, no big deal. The girl has handled the rifle and said "Woa! This is what you hunting bunnies with?!" Put a huge grin on my face!
Be very careful with giving ultimatums. I just spent 3 weeks alone in the house and realized how empty it feels without my wife and the girl. As they say, often you don't appreciate what you have until you loose it.
+1 on encouraging your wife to pursue her hobbies and letting you do the same. My wife DID pick up knitting and I pushed her to get into that tap dance class she has been dreaming about for so long. Makes it a lot easier when I want to go to the range and spend some time by myself.
My mother always says: "clear rules, long friendship".
Good luck and let us know how it turns out.
canadaman30
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My wife was the same way. I compromised by keeping my ammo in the garage. As she started coming out to the range more often, she started to really like the shooting sports. She'll eventually come around, you just have to find a common ground. Start by telling her you will not bring ammo into the house. If she doesnt like that idea, ask her if you can bring a few canoe paddles inside the house...because that is about as useful an unloaded long gun is.
Good luck man, hope all works out.
Good luck man, hope all works out.
Mauser GDog
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Interestingly enough, yesterday was our 3rd anniversary and the wife has pulled a 180. She gave me;
1. Gun case (1st 10/22 arrived 2 days ago.)
2. Cleaning kit (she was in the reserves and loved cleaning her rifle.)
3. 8 gun storage unit. (hell, she assembled it herself!
4. big furry russian hat (guess I better get an SKS now)
So, she has made some big steps forward. At alot of dinner parties I have been gently guiding conversation to hunting and guns, and the opinions of many whom she thought would not have been interested or accepting of the hobby, were. This was a huge eye opener for her.
So for anyone else in a similar situation (see OP) if you keep your cool and expose the resistant party (see:wife) to examples of safe gun hobbyists from all walks of life, things will work out in the end.
MGD
1. Gun case (1st 10/22 arrived 2 days ago.)
2. Cleaning kit (she was in the reserves and loved cleaning her rifle.)
3. 8 gun storage unit. (hell, she assembled it herself!
4. big furry russian hat (guess I better get an SKS now)
So, she has made some big steps forward. At alot of dinner parties I have been gently guiding conversation to hunting and guns, and the opinions of many whom she thought would not have been interested or accepting of the hobby, were. This was a huge eye opener for her.
So for anyone else in a similar situation (see OP) if you keep your cool and expose the resistant party (see:wife) to examples of safe gun hobbyists from all walks of life, things will work out in the end.
MGD
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logic and emotion
The majority of men think with logic, and then put an emotion to it. (ie: This is the logical thing to do, and I feel good about it.)
The majority of women think with emotion and then make the logic to back it up. (ie: I feel good about this, therefore it is logical to do it.)
@ Mauser GDog
Explain it to her using emotions she can understand.
If you can get her to agree on an emotional level, she will create her own logic to back it up.
Good luck.
The majority of men think with logic, and then put an emotion to it. (ie: This is the logical thing to do, and I feel good about it.)
The majority of women think with emotion and then make the logic to back it up. (ie: I feel good about this, therefore it is logical to do it.)
@ Mauser GDog
Explain it to her using emotions she can understand.
If you can get her to agree on an emotional level, she will create her own logic to back it up.
Good luck.
When my wife and I shacked up...I mentioned that the guns are moving with us. She said "There will NOT be any guns in my house!!"
I said "Oh yes, there will be guns in OUR house! They will be stored legally and safely in a steel safe, but they WILL be there."
At which point she just went quiet...
I moved my (new safe) and firearms into the house. And she never said another word about it.
This was years ago....she doesn't even care now. Usually during the "season", one of the babies will be awaiting patiently by the back door for the hunt.
I taught my wife safety, and even got her shooting a couple times...
NOTE : All wives are different. Personally, when it comes to my passion for hunting and guns, there's no debating because it could/would be a deal breaker.
I said "Oh yes, there will be guns in OUR house! They will be stored legally and safely in a steel safe, but they WILL be there."
At which point she just went quiet...
I moved my (new safe) and firearms into the house. And she never said another word about it.
This was years ago....she doesn't even care now. Usually during the "season", one of the babies will be awaiting patiently by the back door for the hunt.
I taught my wife safety, and even got her shooting a couple times...
NOTE : All wives are different. Personally, when it comes to my passion for hunting and guns, there's no debating because it could/would be a deal breaker.
Like others have said, find out why she feels scared of having guns in the house? Maybe it has nothing to do with them being loaded. Maybe, she is afraid that you two could get in a fight and ammo would be brought in. Crazy, but the media portrays this as happening all the time :\
For this case, a compromise could be that you buy a safe, and she gets to put the combo or keep the key for the safe without you knowing, but you'd have combos for any locking device you'd put on the firearms, if she wanted that extra bit of security.
Crappy to have to do that, but better than having to store it at your brother's place.
For this case, a compromise could be that you buy a safe, and she gets to put the combo or keep the key for the safe without you knowing, but you'd have combos for any locking device you'd put on the firearms, if she wanted that extra bit of security.
Crappy to have to do that, but better than having to store it at your brother's place.
