Would you hide a loan from your wife to buy a gun?

Tell her you want to buy the gun...tell her your going to take 80 bucks off every check to pay for it. Whats the big deal? Personally I would save the 80 bucks until had enough to pay for it. But whatever floats your boat. Keep in mind, lying is a nasty habit and not just in relationships, its spills over into every day life, it defines who you are as a person to other people. An untrustworthy liar, everyone second guesses every word that comes out of your mouth and no one will trust you.
 
AKD said:
2 late. she laid that trap a year ago and i fell in.


I feel like a bad guy on here now for just thinking the idea ! What happend to being Men ????

ah well. it is a bad idea.
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no need to feel bad! i've been married a long time and to be honest i've done things like this in the past (no loan tho) things were rocky at best.
now she handles the money and bills, i kepp $250 of each pay check for myself
i need to keep my truck running and in gas out of that....the rest is up to me..
luckily for me she works too...... every case is different.
i things for sure.....dr.phil aint posting the correct answer for you on here :)
 
here is what i do. i take her to the gun shop and let her look at the pink rifles. as she is doing this i buy what i want and then i go and find her. i ask her " what gun do you like , it will look nice next to my new rifle/handgun/coyote calls/case of ammo" seems to work every time.
 
Guess I lucked out. My g/f is into guns a lot, and has been hunting and fishing with her family for years. Hell, she has probably fired more different guns then I have. I have recently gotten into guns a lot more, and only have about $2500ish sunk into it. I have well over $8000 worth of SCUBA gear though. :) She has supported me in my chasing my dreams. Guess it would soon to time to stick a ring on her finger..... But I dont want to give up my huge amount of disposable income right now!

If I wanted a $1500 gun/scope/assesories, I would just buy it right now. But as she is a girlfriend, it isnt her money yet. Soon as that ring goes on, she has a say. But I am realy lucky. She loves fishing brass out of tumblers, and has more fun searching for brass in snow then she does firing my guns! I popped 150 rounds at the range last week in about 2 feet of snow, and thanks to her, I got 146 brass back! :)
 
It's amazing how much women change as soon as they get that wedding ring. Instant weight gain, sudden disgust in ###ual practices they once initiated willingly and with great lust; it's like once they consummate the marriage their true colors come to the surface and they revert back into money grubbin' whores.

If you have to hide anything from your wife, you're in the ####. Re-evaluate and re-org while you still have a halfway decent financial portfolio (and some cajones left).

CS45
 
Buy the rifle if that's what you want to do. Don't feel compelled to sell something else to mitigate the impact. Be completely transparent and you won't run into any trust issues. Your wife is not your mother, nor your master...........it is folly to ask permission. Permission will only affirm a master-servant relationship.
 
cansoldier45 said:
Here's what I did:

Get a divorce.
Buy all the guns you want.
Don't answer to anyone.
It's cheaper in the long run.

CS45
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Second that, I'm in the middle of this. Its no fun, but what can you do.

If you feel you have to hide stuff from the wife, then maybe she's not the one...blah blah blah.
 
AWOL said:
Or try this...

1) Buy the gun
2) Show the wife your new gun
3) Tell her it cost $4750 on sale...great deal!!!
4) Let her go balistic for 2-3 minutes
5) Then tell her: haha just kidding...it was ONLY $1500!!!
6) Send us pictures of her smiling face after she learns that you saved more than $3200
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This is the route I'd go, but tell her it costs $1500 but it's on sale for only $1000. If there's one thing women appreciate is sales. Wifey and I have a system we generally dollar match whatever one spends, this cuts done on my gun spending and her clothes shopping. It gets pretty funny when neither of us dropped large dollars in a while with us trying goad each other in to spending some cash first.
 
I must admit, I am a bad ars husband. I have been married for almost 20 years and when it comes to my firearms, I don't tell my wife. I just buy it. My wife doesn't mind me shooting, but she doesn't get it why I need new rifle, scope or so.
Now, I am changing my strategy and instead buying just to have it, I sell it to buy what I will use it. My collection shrink so bad, I only need one safe and I like it. Extra money go towards bullets and better optics. Less rifle means more shooting and less of worry, which rifle I have to clean, and how much time I have to spend on developing accurate round.
I think if we are married long time we know what we should do and there is not perfect solution to this issue.
 
I pretty much just keep talking incessantly about the gun I want until she can't take it anymore and just says "OMG just buy it already". It's in the mail the next day. I might fib a bit on total cost though like forget to add tax and accessories etc.
 
in my honest and humble opinion - TELL HER EVERYTHING!

I spent 50,000 in just one year (first year of gun collecting), lots of credit cards, line of credit, you name it.

I'm sure there are many out there that spent that kind of money but are not in financial trouble like myself. I got hooked, I can honestly say I was addicted to buying guns. I now have sold my last handgun (today) and still have a shogun left!

I'll buy a cheap glock next time. Tell your wife - I held everything from my wife for a long time because I knew she was better with money and she would NEVER spend it like it did! lol

oh well, lesson learned for me! happy shooting :)
 
why be dishonest with a spouse and cause unrest in you life. Just a stupid decision if you ask me.
 
Heard it the other day, the series in a wedding is the Girl first walks down the Aisle, then stands at the Alter then the Hymn is played and that's her que for the rest of the marraige, Aisle Alter Hymn,

Dude you have a lot bigger troubles when the woman starts setting the terms of what you can and cannot do, I get it when she puts the brakes on regarding the peelers but man to deny you your hobby, which overlaps with your work is not cool. I really suggest you sit down with someone you both trust as the issue is not the gun, its about trusting you enough to make good decisions for yourself and the family, she needs to mature a little and working through this so you both are happy will draw you closer together, you are either going forward or backwards and this is obviously a sore spot. It never hurts to get wise counsel, you started by posting on the boards. Pick your favorite grandparent and go to them, pick someone wise, it will be a great experience.

Good luck.
 
Guns are better than most hobbies because they don't have a drastic depreciation curve that many other items have. It could be worse. Her clothes & shoes have no resale value. Cars, bikes, art, cameras etc all depreciate to a value of "0" over time. Guns will always retain most of their original value if well maintained.

Having spewed all that, I used to get into issues about spending money as we were just starting out and had all that nasty mortgage stuff etc. Now I make more money than we spend and buying what I want is never at issue. Still, neither of us likes to throw money away. I could get more guns but having "redundant" toys is of no interest to me.
 
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