I'm a little confused. You don't like BDC but you want a BDC?
I picked up an older IOR 1-4x with the original CQB reticle that has mils instead of the new "improved CQB 5.56" reticle for the exact reason that you prescribed. I can determine my elevations myself instead of aiming off in between markings because I'm using a different barrel length or ammo that the reticle was designed for. However, in reality the difference that you'd have to aim off may be relatively minor, or even not neccessary depending on your application. You will have to spend a couple of bucks on ammo to determine your elevations, but this would be neccessary with any optic, at least to confirm.
It is big though, believe the IOR is the largest 1-4x scope out there, but it's also built like a tank so I'm not worried about it being subjected to a little abuse.