Thanks for all the responses so far! Seems pretty much a six of one half dozen of the other type of situation. My two biggest draws to the280AI is less felt recoil and less powder required for reloading. That being said this is a dedicated hunting rifle that see’s 5 rounds to re sight in pre season then however many shots to take the animals I take that year so maybe another 5 so extra cost of powder is really nothing as a pound would last years. I think I might get the Boyd’s thumbhole lament stock with limb saver, bed it and see what that does for me. If the flinch is still there due to muscle memory (I find myself flinching when I fire now) then I may look at selling or trading up for a 280AI.
I doubt you'd find much difference in recoil with similar rifles at similar velocities. A 280AI will not cure a flinch over a 7mag.
You will have to either reduce the recoil on the 7mag with a brake, by adding weight and or shooting lighter bullets or a combination of all three.
Maybe a smaller, lighter recoiling rifle (not 280AI) is in order.