Hogger, no need for apologies, I'm just curious!

I'm still tryin' to wash the green off me, too!
As long as the tip of your bullet doesn't contact the cone of your seater you're fine. I can't help thinking that you have some slop somewhere in your press.
I wouldn't "worry" about a few thou., but at the same time consistency is the name of this game, so less variance is good.
I use Lee dies and press. Not greatly liked by many serious hand loaders, but has been very good for me. As long as your die is clean I don't think a more expensive die would get you better results. Try screwing that die in to the point where your press doesn't cam over and try a few to see if the OAL is more consistent, and be sure to measure the finished product to the ogive, not the tip. Also, be sure to use the same amount of muscle on each pull of the lever... we are dealing in thous... doesn't take much to get different readings.
I have found happiness at 20 thou. of my lands, but your gun may like something different. Oh, and I use Horn. AMAX and VMAX bullets (.308 & .223), and have found they are very good as far as length and weight. (ya, I weigh every one when I buy 'em.)
That's all I got, so good luck... C.