Ganderite as it right: gold does fluctuate but DECENT old guns keep going up.
My wife never could understand that. We had a single bank account and a 50-50 marriage.... I thought. SHE thought that meant that I was 100% in charge of making the bucks and SHE was 100% in charge of spending the bucks.
Necessities first, of course. A new car for her = necessity. A beat-up $40 Mauser for me = wasteful extravagance. Airplane tickets so she could run off and visit with Mommy and Daddy = absolute necessities.
When she finally walked out because I was "heartless" (I poured her booze down the drain because I don't think a mother should stay drunk all day if she's raising little kids), she took all 4 bank accounts (I only knew about two), the dog, the cat, the car and the kids. She sent back the credit cards after she maxed them out then sued me for divorce on grounds of 'mental cruelty'.
I have no plastic, I pay cash for everything.... and I sure don't need another like her.
In the end, everything boils down to trust. YOU are making the money. As long as the mortgage is paid and there is food on the table,the necessities are taken care of and that's what matters most. If you are not doing that much, then you are screwing up. But if you ARE looking after your responsibilities, then why shouldn't you buy a toy? The only person you are hurting might be you.
If she still objects, you might remind her that there are other hobbies which are far more destructive. We had an RCMP Sergeant here whose hobby was 11-year-old girls. That got just about zero media attention, but it caused a lot of hurt. I knew a guy who was deliberately spreading HIV... and there was not a word said against the dear boy, but that caused a lot of hurt. You're not hurting anybody. The idea of twin 'hobby accounts' is a good one. If she balks at that, just tell her what all that meat that you've been providing is worth.... and offer to take it out of the house account because she's been eating it, too.
Who knows? When you're in a situation like this, logic means absolutely nothing. Everything is about what THEY WANT and most of them are too d*mned lazy to earn for themselves. Men might be from Mars, but half the women in North America today are from somewhere 'WAY out there.
My wife never could understand that. We had a single bank account and a 50-50 marriage.... I thought. SHE thought that meant that I was 100% in charge of making the bucks and SHE was 100% in charge of spending the bucks.
Necessities first, of course. A new car for her = necessity. A beat-up $40 Mauser for me = wasteful extravagance. Airplane tickets so she could run off and visit with Mommy and Daddy = absolute necessities.
When she finally walked out because I was "heartless" (I poured her booze down the drain because I don't think a mother should stay drunk all day if she's raising little kids), she took all 4 bank accounts (I only knew about two), the dog, the cat, the car and the kids. She sent back the credit cards after she maxed them out then sued me for divorce on grounds of 'mental cruelty'.
I have no plastic, I pay cash for everything.... and I sure don't need another like her.
In the end, everything boils down to trust. YOU are making the money. As long as the mortgage is paid and there is food on the table,the necessities are taken care of and that's what matters most. If you are not doing that much, then you are screwing up. But if you ARE looking after your responsibilities, then why shouldn't you buy a toy? The only person you are hurting might be you.
If she still objects, you might remind her that there are other hobbies which are far more destructive. We had an RCMP Sergeant here whose hobby was 11-year-old girls. That got just about zero media attention, but it caused a lot of hurt. I knew a guy who was deliberately spreading HIV... and there was not a word said against the dear boy, but that caused a lot of hurt. You're not hurting anybody. The idea of twin 'hobby accounts' is a good one. If she balks at that, just tell her what all that meat that you've been providing is worth.... and offer to take it out of the house account because she's been eating it, too.
Who knows? When you're in a situation like this, logic means absolutely nothing. Everything is about what THEY WANT and most of them are too d*mned lazy to earn for themselves. Men might be from Mars, but half the women in North America today are from somewhere 'WAY out there.
Time to man up!
