1-Using fired case from your rifle-dent the mouth, so that a bullet can barely be seated with finger pressure.
2- Barely start the bullet into the case.
3-Insert case and bullet into chamber, and gently close bolt fully.
4-Open bolt,gently remove case and bullet, and measure COL. That is the COL with the bullet against the lands, in that rifle, with that bullet.
5-Repeat a few times to insure consistent results.
6- Using that particular bullet(not another one from the same box, but that same bullet) set your seating die to provide the distance from the lands that you desire, by shortening the COL by that amount.
You must use the same bullet for all steps, because bullets do vary in length due to variances in the points, and your COL is measured to the point.
As well, in some cases, the bullet may stick in the lands, and be partly or totally pulled out of the case as you extract it from the chamber. If that is an issue, you can mark the bullet with graphite from a pencil, or smoke it over a flame, so you can see how far the bullet was pushed into the case before it was pulled out. Simply push the bullet back into the case to that mark, and measure the COL.