Don't think I've ever once used an OAL from a reloading manual.
With cannalure bullets I seat to the cannalure and crimp.
With non-cannalured bullets I seat at least 1 bullet diameter or the entire neck of the case (whichever is smaller) into the case and see what fits in the mag and feeds well. Adjust as necessary.
For match bullets I play around with the depth quite a bit and have gone as much as 1/2" longer than the published OAL.
All the bullets I have bought that have 2 cannalure rings only fit my chambers when seated to the deeper one so I've never had an issue with that.
You shouldn't be starting at max loads (I don't know if you are or not but it almost sounded like you where). Max pressure can be reached in one rifle before another. I've gone above max published loads before without pressure issues in rifles with generous chambers.
Published velocities can be drastically different from real velocities in your rifle. Only easy way to tell how fast the bullet is really going is with a chronograph.
If you want higher velocities with a given bullet weight, get a bigger gun. It's far safer to get a rifle with a more powerful cartridge than to try to hotrod a weaker one.
Very well said/explained!!
I also load based on bullet shape, depth of the throat and intended use.
I don't ever approach the higher end of the charge scale. It's hard on the gun and my shoulder. Also I load for accuracy only (target shooter) I've found through extensive testing that 95% of the cartridges I load are most accurate at the lower end of the scale.
Something like a 30/30 will shoot well in the 1800 to 2000 fps range I should think and have more then enough thump to drop a deer etc. That's what I was getting at in my first post.

I find people are too focused on velocity now a days. Velocity is only important when you are shooting far which is not the entended perpose for the 30/30.
If I say wanted to shoot at long distance and needed a faster cartridge I'd switch to a swede Mauser in 6.5x55 or a similar cartridge that I could load a spritzer bullet into to cut the wind better.
I seat most of my bullets to the lead -.010 to .005 for accuracy. But for something like a 30/30 in a levergun I'd load them light and to the cannular with a good crimp.
OP, if you aren't getting pressure signs then I'd say you're fine. Just keep in mind that an oldschool rimmed round like a 30/30 will never be a speed demon. But it has still taken thousands of moose and deer in the last 100 years so it's no lightweight!
Steve