Probably still the best method is to take your firing pin assembly out of your bolt. This takes away any stress on the bolt when you "#### it". Next take a resized brass and seat a bullet too long on purpose. Insert the bullet in the gun. Go back and seat the bullet in small increments. When the bolt just closes with slight pressure you are at the lands. Take your bullet comparator and measure the cartridge. Write this number down, do this about 3-4 times and take the average. After this is done you will no exactly where the lands are when a cartridge is chambered. Not sure if this makes sense, but here is a video pretty good to watch.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jv-D1mEI514
I would have some concerns about this method. One is that resized brass is likely to have headspace and cause error. The other is that bullet seating tension is going to affect your results (when do you feel resistance). I jam 0.010" and never feel it on the bolt. I'll post the method I use at the end of this. I've looked at the Stony Point (Hornady now) system, but do not feel it offers any better, even if you get a fired case case from your gun threaded to the tool.
Another issue in all this is that bullets vary in bearing surface length. They also vary a lot in distance between the bullet seating cone contact point and the ogive to body point. Can be over 0.010". So, unless you measure every single loaded case for accuracy with a bullet comparator, it is extremely poor practice to be seating to "kiss" the lands, or really anywhere less than a 0.010" jam or jump. You are in no mans land, and can have bullets jammed or jumped depending on tolerance of the bullet, and then the resulting affect on pressure and accuracy. Just my thoughts...
Split Case Method
1. Take a neck sized only fired case, and use a Dremel to cut a single narrow slot in the neck and shoulder.
2. Select a bullet from the box you plan to load and fit it in the split case. Pick a bullet with a consistent flat tip, or file it a touch to square it up. Adjust case by squeezing the neck to increase tension as required. It does not need a lot of tension and just enough hold the bullet.
3. Carefully chamber it, and remove it slowly. If the ejector is pushing the case sideways, use your finger to keep the bullet from dragging on the side of the chamber or receiver.
4. Measure the overall length of the cartridge to the tip of the bullet, and record it.
5. Repeat step 4 until you get consistent numbers within .001". When you think you are close, then just pull the bullet a slight touch out from the self seated position and confirm it consistently returns to that same spot, and record the final length of the cartridge, and record in you loading book. Mark this bullet so you don't mix it up with the rest.
6. This length represents what overall length you need for that specific bullet to touch the lands. In my opinion just touching the lands is a poor position to seat too. I go either 0.010" longer to jam the bullet, or increments of 0.010" shorter to create a jump to the lands. Calculate your desired OAL to give the jam or jump you want, and record that number.
7. Use this marked bullet to load a live round long in the case, and by seating it deeper and deeper by trial and measure match the OAL you have calculated in step 6.
8. At this point methods may differ. Some save this load and use it to set up your die for the next loading session. I have a micrometer style seating die, so I just record the seating position in my loading book and use the test round at the range.
9. This test load, or recorded seating depth in theory is good for that specific batch of bullets, if it were not for throat burning. Especially when new the throat burns so is a moving target. So, especially with a new barrel you may want to repeat this exercise more often, or if you bought a large batch of the same bullets.