I don't think anyone here assumes loading to 80-90k is safe nor needed for the op to achieve his goal. What I think is being said is that is running running the same pressures as a rum or slightly more to achieve your result with reasonable case life is not dangerous. I am pretty sure the safety margin is quite large. Now I say this if you are an experienced hand loader and know what signs to look for. For me if ejector marks show up that is a sign to back off at least 5%.Who says the pressure signs weren't a true indication of excessive pressure? I observed excessive case head expansion, and my chronograph told me that I was exceeding the velocities listed in the manual, so the pressure could very likely have been excessive. Now if you choose to believe that loading to produce 80,000-90,000psi or more is safe, then by all means, keep loading to those levels, and perhaps you won't have a case rupture, or have something fatigue over time, and let go in your face. However, don't pretend that just because you haven't had a failure yet, that loading to those pressures is safe.
I don't condone my reloading practices to newbies but pushing the "limits" a bit gave me a good amount of knowlage on what to expect and has taught me some very consistent things to look for when I know I'm pushing it to far.