I had no idea the .44s had recoil! I can take an 870 18" with 3" slugs...it's not akin or worst than that...is it?!
Not THAT kind of recoil! But "taking an 870 with 3" slugs" can mean a lot of things (including "how many before you can't shoot straight?") I can "take 30 rounds of 405 gr. @ 1750 fps from my Marlin 1895", too, but I'll suffer for it afterwards. Macho isn't the name of the game here

It's being able to shoot the gun effectively. Plus, perceived recoil is a personal thing; it also depends on the design of the stock and the recoil
velocity, as a perusal of the Nitro Express forums will demonstrate, where people discuss the perceived recoil of the .416 vs the .458 or the .470 vs the .505. Try some of those is you want RECOIL.
According to one of the online recoil calculators, a 6.5 lb. rifle, such as a .44 Marlin., shooting a 240 gn. bullet at 1750 fps. and the same weight of rifle in 30-30 shooting a 170 gn. bullet at 2250 both have around 14 ft-lbs.of recoil, which is pretty mild. But as some people have posted, they find the recoil a bit tiring. "YMMV." Last week I did a bit of shooting working up loads for my Martini-Enfield .303 carbine, which is prob. around 7 lbs. and has a steel butt-plate. Recoil is about 17 ft.-lbs. No problem. But I shot slowly, with time out between strings to handload.
I don't think you'd find the .44 mag much of a problem unless you tried to go through 100 rounds in a thin shirt, esp. with the stock Marlin "hockey puck" buttplate.

Stuart