If you already have a rifle of known freebore, you could create a test round and jam the lands with the actual bullet you want to use to determine the OAL.
Once you have that you can compare that OAL to how you would like the bullet to sit in relation to the neck shoulder, much like Leeper is suggesting above... with the back end of the bearing surface forward of the neck shoulder junction.
Then you are only looking for the dimensional difference between what you have and what you would like to have.
Leave yourself a little room to chase throat erosion.
Often times a guy will load a few dummy rounds with the bullet seated where you want it and send them to the pipe fitter for reference so he can ream the throat to suit.
Just keep in mind the magazine max OAL when doing this... assuming its a repeater. If its a single shot rifle, it doesn't matter.
Oh ya... what action are you using? If you use something like a Rem 700 or clone, then you can feed and eject up to about 2.6" from an AI mag... but if you're using a different action that is shorter, you may not be able to eject a live round if you run as long as possible.
You can get into certain technical problems as you run a long 223 from a mag... one is finding a mag that will feed it, or modifying a mag so it will feed it. I like the Accurate Mag for 223, but you will need to modify it... I can tell you how if you need help.
Then there's the action itself... as the bullet feeds out of the mag there is a feed ramp inside the action and normally the neck will touch this feed ramp and lift the center line of the bullet before the tip of the bullet touches the back of the barrel, so it aligns with the chamber. But... Once you start running close to 2.6" OAL, the tip of the bullet can contact the back face of the barrel before the neck touches the feed ramp and this leaves the center line of the bullet about 0.010" low and it can catch the corner of the chamber and cause and FTF.
To get around that, you need to think like an M14... and add a small chamfer (about 0.030") at 6 oclock to help lift the bullet tip into the chamber.
If you do all that, you can really get the 223 moving and will feed reliably with these long rounds.