I use the magazine on my .338LM Remington 700P, and the magazine is too short for me to contact the lands with the factory barrel.
I seat them as long as I can while still ensuring that I have reliable feed in my magazine, and use bullets that are good with jump, such as 300 SMK's.
For guns that do not have magazines, or they are single fed only, the tips above are good.
A good tip for determining how much jam into the rifling you have, is to make up a dummy round and smoke the bullet using a lighter, chamber it, and use your calipers to determine how much the lands rubbed off the the smoking, adjust as needed.