Dan belisle came up with a good idea. Wadcutters, matched with a small dose of Bullseye powder have been a mainstay for target shooters, for decades. Worth considering. Though only for revolver.
One caveat: SASS rules clearly state that wadcutter bullets may not be seated flush, or below the case mouth. So if you go this route, be sure to seat bullets so that some lead is exposed. Another good choice, is a roundnosed flat point bullet, of between 120-130 grains. When matched to a suitable powder charge, these can be very mild.
If you can cast your own bullets, Lee features a mould to produce a 105-grain bullet (358-105-SWC), that is capable of surprisingly light recoil, when matched to suitable charges of fast burning powder(Bullseye, Clays, Red Dot, Trail Boss, Tightgroup.....etc.). The 105- grain bullet is quite accurate from a revolver, too. Likewise, the 125- grain mold (358-125-RF)....which is suitable for both revolver and rifle. I have loaded many thousands of both these cast bullets, with complete satisfaction. Worth considering.
If you'd rather buy than cast: DRG 130- grain truncated-cone flat point bullets(Listed as: RNFP) are a good choice. Cactus Plains .38 cal, 130 gr. RNFP bullets are another option......these too, are excellent bullets. Bullet Barn has several offers, too. Including: .38/105-gr. wadcutter. .38/148 wadcutter. Plus: .38/105 TCFP BB. (Have not tried these...but favourable reports from those who have).
Al
ps: Read your post about the Ruger NV Bisley. Barrel lengths? Has your daughter tried these? How do they fit her hand? Can handle them comfortably when dry-firing, etc.? May be a good choice, in the future. Most female shooters of my acquaintance who favour Ruger revolvers, seem to prefer the 4 5/8" barrel. Well balanced in the hand.