if you have small hands you can forget shooting 45 ACP in any other format besides 1911.
You will get a lot of fanboysm biased answers, as you did already, like recommending a Sig 226 for small hands? that is plain ridiculous.
If you have small hands, you are looking at glock 19, mp9, P30L, XDM9, (cz75 maybe, most likely not).
In .40 some guns are still ok, since the grip does not change.
Beretta 92fs, Sig 226, are just clubby and I will never recommend those, no matter what grips you put on those, you need medium to bigger sized hands to shoot those guns.
Jericho, is as clubby as a CZ, so maybe.
I have own most of the brands named and I kept the P30.