Ejector or plunger marks on the brass mean "STOP!"
Military brass is heavier thus it has less volume so high pressure signs appear with lighter loads. The rule of thumb is to reduce 10%, then work up. Some commercial brass is also quite heavy, and Nosler also advises that their brass has less volume than does their competitors.
Make sure that your scale is properly calibrated. I have reached the point that I prefer to set the weight on my balance beam scale with check weights rather than adjusting the scale to zero and assume it measures correctly.
edited to add . . .
If your specific rifle has a short throat, and your bullet is seated long enough to contact the rifling, pressure signs will appear with lighter powder charges.