It all depends on what type of hunter you are, sustenance or sport.
If you hunt more for food, you don't care where the damn bird is, if legal, you shoot. Sure you enjoy being out in nature, but if you tag out 5 mins after legal begins on the opener, you think it's great luck!
If you hunt more for sport, you want challenge and excitement. You pass up the easy shots to make it more difficult and exciting. You spend a lot of time in the woods, and sometimes passing up shots because the game isn't up to your standards.
There is no "better" hunter, or more ethical etc. There are only hunters.
You pretty much nailed it!!
Personally, I've passed up a lot of game, going for bigger/more robust creatures, and I definately enjoy a challenging hunt.
I recently passed up a couple of jakes to pursue the larger toms behind them. All in all, I spent 10 hrs hunting that day and didn't get the tom IO wanted. Buuut I enjoyed the day and had lots of fun.
On the other side of the table, I don't see it ethically wrong to shoot a turkey in a tree, a duck in the water or a grouse on the road. HEY....ultimately "food" is the prize for me, so the order in which the animal gets dead, providing it's legal and humane, makes no difference to me.
So, I guess for me, it depends on my plan. I've been chasing a trophy buck nicknamed "Bob" for the past 4 years. I let him go once, I missed him once..and have had numerous encounters with him now, nut no "finale"....YET.
If a doe walked out in front of me on my quest for Bob...well, I'll probably let her go...as I'm looking for a particular animal.
If my day's goal is to have a turkey in the deep fryer by 3pm, I won't be nearly as fussy. Given an opportunity to bag a bird...it's gonna happen.