Two years absent. Heads out of the sand.

Hello fellow Gunnutz,

I'm afraid my last two years have been a bit dramatic and I found myself unable to cope so I withdrew.

My teenage child passed away in 2022 when he broke his fentanyl virginity. IMHO, this was followed by the most unimaginably absurd police response. I think of my son's easily identifiable killer daily and I wonder how many children he's taken and how many families decimated. I wonder who's more of a failure, myself as a father or these "authorities" who are either so incompetent or corrupt I cannot tell which. Justice denied is arguably as devastating as having to perform CPR on my cold boy. I'll never get over the death gurgle of my breath coming back out as his last just as I'll never forgive those "in charge" for treating me like a criminal while protecting legal and illegal drug dealers. I find both of these "peddlers of poison" culpable, as I do the "powers that be" who housed one, licenses the other, and turns a blind eye to both.

I had a hunting accident a little over a year ago. A careless hunter that I no longer share a blind with took part of my hearing, or gave me an alarm in my head that plays 24/7/365. Not helpful, especially as someone delighted by soft sounds like bird song, or falling rain, or the crack of a twig.

I may have fallen a bit into the bottle, which while understandable was not exactly performance enhancing. It did give me a better appreciation for mental heath and addiction issues.

Late this fall, I lost a great friend to black ice. He helped me so much after my boys death and now unable to repay him I found I had no choice but to pull my head out of the sand to at least try to help his family and friends.

It's been a $h1tshow of a ride to say the least.

Just recently I heard about the latest round of bans so I pulled down the spec sheet and laughed so hard I cried. The absurdity of banning the SVT40 and the AG42, actually Nazi killing antiques, from the most law abiding segment of society on the eve of fascist invasion was too much for me. The most hilarious thing was the self-registration "gun buyback". lol. How can you not laugh. It beats crying. Sometimes it's fun to do both. Incompetent or corrupt I cannot tell which. I hope you see the parallel. I look forward to reading your opinions and analysis. I imagine it'll include how the bans will make us safer from tow truck drivers/mobile casinos /401 gangsters and how our chronically gutted armed forces are going to protect us from our foreign allies/enemies.

Adversity breeds resilience, and/or resistance if you prefer, so that brings me back to one of my favorite forums. I haven't made the rounds yet, and I have two years of catch-up, but I'm excited to read your thoughts on our current predicaments. I felt this post was called for to let you know that I'm with all those who have had their fill of this absurdity. I'd also like to thank the admins for not locking or deleting my inactive account. That was helpful.

One last message aimed at the "boys in blue" who lurk this site, I'd ask you respect my privacy as I know my fellow gunnutz will. It's within your rights to do your 4am wellness check / intimidation tactic, but I am not the same cordial man you dealt with before. My first question through the door will be "is my son's killer arrested?" and when you stammer or stand like a deer caught in headlights my second question will be "Do you have a warrant?". Good luck convincing a judical officer that I'm a threat when I sit armed to the teeth (legally as always, like the day of my son's death when "you" last helped yourself to an inspection), knowing who and where my son's killer is, and have done nothing. I am however contemplating a civil suit against the parties mentioned above, which would be doubly embarrasing in an election year, so please ask that they would take that into consideration. I believe upsetting my wife (again) would cement my decision. If you wish to "talk" to me, why don't you get that lovely detective John Somethingorother, the one in charge of my son's case, to give me a call during banker's hours. That would be fine.

Love & resilience to (almost) all,

safehunter aka the shovelman

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"The Shovelman’s Creed"

These are my shovels. There are many like them, but these are mine.
My shovels are my best friends. They are my life.
I master them as I must master my life.
My shovels, without me, are useless. Without my shovels, I am useless.
I must dig my shovel true. I must dig stronger and deeper than my true enemy, winter, who has taken our brother and tries to kill us still.
I will never relent. Winter has no hold over me with the promise of spring.
I will dig...

My shovel and I know that what counts in this world is not the snow we throw,
the effort we expend,
or the sweat under our jacket.
We know that it is the neighbours we dig out that count.
We will dig...

My shovel is my weapon. It is a tool of power, a tool of creation, a tool of destruction.
I must wield it with skill, precision, and honour.
I will dig through snow and ice, dirt and rock, for my shovel and I are one.
We cannot not be stopped.

Before God, I swear this creed.
My shovel and I are the defenders of my tribe.
We are the masters of our enemy.
We are the saviors of my life.
So be it, until victory is ours and there is no enemy, but spring!

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1) The shovel cane. Once a useless tool for the car, it's become my cane of choice when I'm too tired to stand but must shovel more.
2) The grain scoop. Scrapes small spaces and the champion thrower.
3) The steel scraper. Pushes and scrapes like no other. Ice and asphalt beware. It will lift you both.
4 & 5) The poly duo. About as durable as their soft touch, they do no harm.

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It is always nice to see new members (or returning members) write a bit more about themselves than simply "hi".

It took me a while to digest your message, but I appreciate the sincerity, frustration and anguish I read in your words. I have had some deep valleys in my life so while I cannot 100% empathize with everything you have been through, I can appreciate and understand much of it.

I hear ya about authorities and about the incessant attacks on us.

I am sorry to hear about your son and your friend. I pray God's peace on you and your family as you continue to work through all the emotions and navigating life going forward.

Happy to hear you returning to CGN, so welcome back!
 
Sorry about your losses, the world seems to sometimes kick you in the nutz and not stopping.

Had family have issues with drugs, luckily guy responsible just turned up dead on a street one day.
 
I like you already, based on your avatar.... welcome back. I too just rejoined about 2 months ago after a 5-6 year CGN hiatus (no, I wasn't banned), and I am enjoying the community again, and now I know how and when to use the "ignore" function!!

I'm going to PM you, as I have some personal things to say and ask. You are in NO WAY a failure as a father, don't ever forget that.

We're here with you Brother, even if it's through the keyboard.

SRS
 
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Sorry about your losses, the world seems to sometimes kick you in the nutz and not stopping.

Had family have issues with drugs, luckily guy responsible just turned up dead on a street one day.
Was someone putting out the trash? One can only hope.
 
safehunter - helluva way to say hello! And tough couple of years you've had. After Afghanistan and readjusting to this world, I found my dog was the best listener I ever met. He was genuinely interested in my company and never betrayed my trust.
 
Hey P, Good to see you back here!!
So sorry to hear about everything you went through, some of it I knew some is new to me.
If you'd like some help with the "bottle thing" I can get you in touch with a friend (who is a gun club member as well) who is active in AA, just let me know or if there is anything else I can do for you. You're only 30 minutes away.
 
Thank you all for the warm welcome back. I appreciate the time you took to digest my post. I am self aware enough to realize that I am difficult to understand. I think and speak like "Darmok at Tanagra". I also think like a German, or Yoda if you prefer, so my sentences are usually backwards. I'd apologize, but you can't help who you are. Plus, multiple audiences; I had to sprinkle in enough legalese to convince those that would upset my wife that I'm capable of following through. I've recently lost two great friends that were lawyers, and wow, talk about the nuance of language.

Mr SRS, There's plenty of blame regarding the death of my son to go around, but to believe that none of it falls at my feet would be delusional. Some of it falls at his feet too.

Mr. maple_leaf_eh you are right and you are wrong.

You are right, I'd be lost without my dogs. These creatures have an emotional intelligence and general intuition that far outstrips humans. As a young man I joked about how I dreamed of a young girl sleeping between my legs every night. Funny how it came true in a greater sense. Plus what great security! Good luck coming into my yard without setting off the 4 legged alarm. They can hear a rabbit fart through locked doors while napping on the couch. They're so much smarter than I'll ever be. FTR I have cats as well, and I can safely say I'm not the best hunter in my house.

You are wrong about taking out the trash. I struggled hard with this, weighing the life of a scumbag dealer and every life he's taken or will take against my own. The problem is our lives are not our own. They belong to the people who love us; our tribe. I cannot help my tribe from prison or the grave, and it would be arrogant of me to think I can seek revenge without digging two graves. We all have our tribes, even scumbag dealers. My son's killer is a grandfather FFS. Depriving children of their parents or parents of their children is not the road to peace. So ya, I'm a big believer in accountability. Life in prison I can get behind, but the death penalty? That's not Canadian and it shouldn't be. Take some solace in the fact they can't suffer if they're dead. I believe my attitude echoed yours earlier in my crisis, so perhaps my own recent struggles have allowed me to walk a mile in his shoes and tempered my anger; like a hair.

Bertn it's good to be back and I'm sorry I ghosted the world. Like all addicts, I think I got a handle on things. I have some new rules that help me manage: no drinking alone, only wobbly pops during the week and only during daylight hours. I may allow myself a little leeway on the weekends if I have a co-conspirator because life is short, and we all deserve a moment of happiness with the people we love. I also dry out on my own schedule, which is one day a week, one week a month, and one month a year. That aside, I look forward to the shows and barring scheduling conflicts I'd love to be back at the table. I got plenty of old and rusty that should go to better homes.

So, like my EE ads always say: after being in IT, working in windowless locked rooms with strobing florencents, I kinda abhore screen time. I'll read your comments & respond eventually, but probably not timely.

I saw my first robin of the year at dawn this morning. It's gonna be a good day.
 
Keep your chin up.

Encourage people to write/speak with their MLAs and MPs regarding the lack of punishment and the severity of the fentanyl crisis.
 
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