Wife Likes Guns, but not in the house (storage question)

Mauser GDog said:
Preparing to get my PAL / RPAL, followed shortly by purchasing my first gun.

Wife is not an anti, but she is being quite stubborn about having guns in the house. (no comments required there, unless they are jokes I can repeat to my wife :) )

To give you an idea of just how stubborn, the solution of having no ammo in the house was NOT a solution. Anyways...

Worst case scenario, I can store my firearms at my brothers house. He has PAL / RPAL, and we will be shooting together 99% of the time anyways.

After reading the heck out of these forums, using the "search" feature and reading the Canadian Firearms Act "Storage" section several times, I can't see any problem with storing non-restricted guns at somebody elses dwelling (safely of course) if they have the proper PAL.

It's the restricted I am confused about.

I have read in a couple threads here that a restricted gun must be stored at the residence of the person the gun is registered to. But when I read the firearms act I don't see anything confirming this.

Transportation issues for a restricted aside, is it possible to store a restricted at somebody elses residence? OR, just writing this, is there something to do with transportation that would prevent storing restricteds at a dwelling other than your own?

Thank you.
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Read between the lines. Your wife is anti gun. If education and logic doesn't change her opinion you're hooped.

TDC
 
Buy a big gun safe.

Mauser GDog said:
Preparing to get my PAL / RPAL, followed shortly by purchasing my first gun. Wife is not an anti, but she is being quite stubborn about having guns in the house. (no comments required there, unless they are jokes I can repeat to my wife :) ) To give you an idea of just how stubborn, the solution of having no ammo in the house was NOT a solution. Anyways... Worst case scenario, I can store my firearms at my brothers house. He has PAL / RPAL, and we will be shooting together 99% of the time anyways. After reading the heck out of these forums, using the "search" feature and reading the Canadian Firearms Act "Storage" section several times, I can't see any problem with storing non-restricted guns at somebody elses dwelling (safely of course) if they have the proper PAL. It's the restricted I am confused about. I have read in a couple threads here that a restricted gun must be stored at the residence of the person the gun is registered to. But when I read the firearms act I don't see anything confirming this. Transportation issues for a restricted aside, is it possible to store a restricted at somebody elses residence? OR, just writing this, is there something to do with transportation that would prevent storing restricteds at a dwelling other than your own?...
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I'm assuming that she trusts you, and that her concern about having firearms in her home is with other potential occupants of her home.

The obvious solution, in my opinion, is a large and heavy safe - I stress large and heavy - that your wife may be convinced is both absolutely impenetrable to your children and virtually impenetrable to others.

Barring your wife's change of heart, your CFO will advise you of your limited options. (You could, for example, buy a restricted firearm - with your residence being the place of registration - but, with prior CFO permission, storing elsewhere under the authority of a temporary Authorization To Transport for the stated purpose of "temporary storage".)
 
Wendell said:
I'm assuming that she trusts you, and that her concern about having firearms in her home is with other potential occupants of her home.

The obvious solution, in my opinion, is a large and heavy safe - I stress large and heavy - that your wife may be convinced is both absolutely impenetrable to your children and virtually impenetrable to others.

Barring your wife's change of heart, your CFO will advise you of your limited options. (You could, for example, buy a restricted firearm - with your residence being the place of registration - but, with prior CFO permission, storing elsewhere under the authority of a temporary Authorization To Transport for the stated purpose of "temporary storage".)
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None of that is necessary. Provided the Brother has a restricted firearm(s) and a current ATT he is entitled to borrow the firearm without any extra crap. Of course both parties "met at the range" to transfer possession.

TDC

ETA: Aside from the above, I agree. X-man answered the real issue in question.
 
If she doesn't want to store guns in HER palce of residence, why is she getting a PAL/RPAL at all? If she acquires one she's got to store it somewhere (aunt hatties's maybe?) and if she doesn't plan on getting one, why is she bothering with her licence?

I agree that is seems she's likely anti-gun and won't admit it and getting ehr licence is just a way to cheaply defuze a confrontation that she refuzed with the refusal to permit guns in the house.

My mother isn't an anti-gun but she immensely dislikes them (from a rather frightening experience as a child) and was never comfortable with them in the house. Nevertheless, she and my father had an understanding that as long as they were safely stored and she didn't have to see them anything but rarely there were no problems.

One has certain rights but relationships often involve compromises. You might remind her of that.


@Wendell: In Alberta, maybe. Not in Nova Scotia. - to what does this refer?
 
Get a locking cabinet or safe, and lock your guns in it, tell her if she doesn't like it, she can move out.

Honestly, I have no clue why some supposed men put up with #### like this.

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Gunney said:
If she doesn't want to store guns in HER palce of residence, why is she getting a PAL/RPAL at all? If she acquires one she's got to store it somewhere (aunt hatties's maybe?) and if she doesn't plan on getting one, why is she bothering with her licence?

I agree that is seems she's likely anti-gun and won't admit it and getting ehr licence is just a way to cheaply defuze a confrontation that she refuzed with the refusal to permit guns in the house.

My mother isn't an anti-gun but she immensely dislikes them (from a rather frightening experience as a child) and was never comfortable with them in the house. Nevertheless, she and my father had an understanding that as long as they were safely stored and she didn't have to see them anything but rarely there were no problems.

One has certain rights but relationships often involve compromises. You might remind her of that.


@Wendell: In Alberta, maybe. Not in Nova Scotia. - to what does this refer?
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No offense but that is nothing but hoplophobic paranoia. A bad experience is one thing, a fear of inanimate objects because of such is illogical.

TDC
 
i have a brother in law who married somebody with the same attitude... I let him keep his guns at my house..

later on in the relationship, she didn't like him hunting (which we used to do all the time)...

now 15 years later.. I own all his guns.. ( he was whipped into selling them), he's divorced.. no guns, no PAL, no nothing.. poor bastard.. serves him right for being a pussy.,
 
valmet762 said:
i have a brother in law who married somebody with the same attitude... I let him keep his guns at my house..

later on in the relationship, she didn't like him hunting (which we used to do all the time)...

now 15 years later.. I own all his guns.. ( he was whipped into selling them), he's divorced.. no guns, no PAL, no nothing.. poor bastard.. serves him right for being a pussy.,
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Did you take away his man card?

TDC
 
Xman said:
I guess the original question has been answered but I have a question of my own. What kind of relationship do you have when she puts restrictions on what (legal) activities you can engage in? And don't say that she isn't anti. By not letting you have restricted guns in the house she is effectively not letting you have restricted guns. Are you ok with the fact that she is making that decision for you?

My advice would be for you to open her purse, take your testicles back from it and tell her how things are gonna be. If she doesn't like it, she can move out.

And if you're gonna say "yeah, I am going to divorce my wife over a stupid little thing like a gun", I'll tell you this. It's not over a gun, it's over your right to be your own person and do with your life as you please.

Marriage should be a dream come true and the fulfillment of all your wishes, as much as humanly possible, not a bondage nightmare.

Anyways, I know that what a stranger on the internet says to you can't possibly matter, but I hope that one day you come to realize that your life is yours to live.
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BAMB.....as the hammer hits the nail on the head. There are lots of things my wife does not like...but she knows where my interests lie, and she does'nt F*ck with them.
 
themarauder said:
Good luck bud.

Happy wife = happy life.
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Well, 5 pages after my question was answered (thanks again fellers) we have moved into a new area of discussion, and it's a very interesting one.

In some respect, I agree that she darn well is an anti!

She is well informed about safe storage and handling procedures, so the problem must be more deep rooted than a concern of theft causing harm, accidental discharge causing harm etc. What those real concerns are, I guess I will have to ask more questions to get to the bottom of it.

themarauder's comment quoted above is a wise statement. To some of the posters here, it might sound like defeat or a "weakening of ones manliness" but I have to say, it's all about priorities.

If your wife and her happiness are #1 then it's an easy compromise to make, regardless of how strongly you disagree with her stubborn outlook on storing firearms in the house.

If your right to store firearms in the house comes first, well, you might be with the wrong person.

(Jumps back into foxhole in preparation for a "you are whipped" "Where are your balls" barrage.)

Thanks again guys, enjoyable read.
 
Nah...no need to call you names. To each their own! If you are happy, that's all that matters.

I personally couldn't be happy with someone who didn't value my happiness and trusted my judgment, even if the issue was not gun ownership but rather a collections of butterflies.

I am married and I have two kids so I am not a teenager living in his momma's basement who doesn't understand relationships.

You can not love and respect anybody until you love and respect yourself and in my opinion (based on the very few details that you provided here) you are not doing that.

I wish I could understand how some people can go through life bending to everyone's unreasonable will and whim.
 
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X Man is correct again.

Happy wife = happy life

I've heard this lots of times. It's always from guys that live their lives the way their wife orders them to.;)
 
Gatehouse said:
X Man is correct again.

Happy wife = happy life

I've heard this lots of times. It's always from guys that live their lives the way their wife orders them to.;)
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Agreed 100%.

No offense mauser gdog, but if your "priorities" are to let anyone else run your life for you. Then just ask your wife what you should do.

You're going to do whatever she tells you anyway by the sounds of things.
 
Mauser GDog said:
She is well informed about safe storage and handling procedures, so the problem must be more deep rooted than a concern of theft causing harm, accidental discharge causing harm etc. What those real concerns are, I guess I will have to ask more questions to get to the bottom of it.
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That is probably the best way to go. Get her to clearly articulate what her problem is, and then maybe you can show her that is it irrational. It will probably take some time, and it probably wouldn't hurt to try to get her out shooting (someone suggested a pink 10/22?).

Good luck.
 
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