That's a very simplistic answer not taking into account the extreme difference in sectional density, which (bullet construction being equal) is an excellent predictor of overall penetration.
Have not found any deer with calculators, micrometers, or internet access.
Been watching out for it too!

Supposedly the deer that know these things cannot be killed without a plasma rifle in the 40 watt range, or some such. The rest of them don't know any better and die when smacked in the boiler room.
Yeah, of course it's a simplification. So is claiming that one weight will magically make the problems go away, while another will cause you to have more of them. Guys, esp, newbs, tend to spend far too much time trying to calculate out all the "best", while what they should be doing is shooting at the range or out in the back forty.
My experience has been that I shot deer with 50 grain bullets out of a .223, and ate pretty well. I shot deer with 110 gr out of a .308 Win, and ate well, I shot deer with 125 Grain .308, and ate well, 150 gr, ditto, 180 gr too. That's as heavy a bullet as I have used. None did more or less damage because of their weight. Spine shooting a deer, though, I can relate that it makes a mess, but tracking isn't an issue...and that a gut shot deer that does a runner can pretty much ruin a hunting trip. These are some of the things that tend to influence my choice of taken shot, far more than the actual weight of the bullet.
None of the deer shot with the .223 suffered the supposed result of having a shallow flesh wound on the near side, nor did the deer shot with the 110 grain bullets.
It's about the Indian, not the arrow, eh.
Cheers
Trev