Squeamish girlfriend?

Easy guys. She's not trying to change me (and knows she couldn't anyway, I grew up in the bush, not something i'll just give away) and after I told her I was keeping the fish she was upset but let it go. I was looking for some good suggestions, and some of yous have been very helpfull, others have not been. She's squeamish, not a idoit, she knows where chicken, meat, eggs ect come from. It may have been my fault more then hers, she's gone "fishing" before but to her that was sitting on a dock and getting baby bass which were thrown back in, it was her first time out doing some real fishing and I assumed she knew, which was my fault not hers. Next time we'll have a chat before hand so its not as much of a shock and take it from there as others have suggested. Thanks for your input some has been helpfull.
 
find a video on you tube of someone shooting and gutting a deer, or partridge, and make her watch it intensly about 6 times. THEN you will have an idea what your in for!!!!!:runaway:
 
My wife was a city girl while I was raised on a farm. Shortly after our marriage I took her along gopher shooting. After seeing me shoot a few she asked if she could try. First shot was a miss and she immediately wanted me to reload. Her second shot connected then she cried, " Oh, I killed it,"

She has not shot since but eats wild game, has on occasion accompanied me and will help when wrapping venison, making sausage etc. She loves fishing and is my usual fishing companion. As for not hunting I do not mind at all. It gives me time with the boys.
Oh, by the way, the gopher episode was more than 38 years ago.
 
There's no reason why the two of you have to enjoy all the same activities, she has hers, and you can have yours. You just need them to be mutually agreeable,and all is well. If taking her on the hunt isn't going to be something she enjoys, don't sweat it. Its nice to have some things you do on your own. It makes for a better relationship in some ways and you appreciate each other more. I don't go to candle parties and baby showers, and I don't expect my wife to come deer hunting. No strain on the relationship whatsoever.
 
She's half way there.

Hey JimBob08, if your lady friend is wanting to come out with you on all your outdoors adventures, I think she could be closer to accepting the idea of hunting. It seems she has an interest in nature and the whole communing with it and all and that's great! She should also know that we need life to live. And sometimes that means the taking of an animals life. My suggestion to you is not to gloryify the kills. There's too much machismo "man conquering nature because it is his will" stimgatism attached to the kills. (I think we joke about the killing to console ourselves of the terrible act- hence the macho behavior). Truth be known, I love to go hunting. I think about it all the time. I don't enjoy the killing- It's horrible and beautiful at the same time.-I know real hunters will know what I'm talking about. And every fall I try and find an excuse not to go, but something calls to me and I can't stop. That's just me, and my silly opinion. Good Luck!
 
Grizzlypeg said:
There's no reason why the two of you have to enjoy all the same activities, she has hers, and you can have yours. You just need them to be mutually agreeable,and all is well. If taking her on the hunt isn't going to be something she enjoys, don't sweat it. Its nice to have some things you do on your own. It makes for a better relationship in some ways and you appreciate each other more. I don't go to candle parties and baby showers, and I don't expect my wife to come deer hunting. No strain on the relationship whatsoever.
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Exactly. My last ex had a passing interest in fishing, and no desire to go hunting (or guns in general, for that matter).

That is exactly how I enjoyed it. You do your thing, I'll do my thing, and we can get back together once in a while to do 'our' thing.
 
I fantacize about meeting a women gun nut, who hunts/handloads/guts deer etc, but then I think do I really want to have a women who I can"t get away from? Imagine trying to sneak out hunting without her coming with you?
Maybe leaving them at home is"nt a bad thing either.
 
migrant hunter said:
I fantacize about meeting a women gun nut, who hunts/handloads/guts deer etc, but then I think do I really want to have a women who I can"t get away from? Imagine trying to sneak out hunting without her coming with you?
Maybe leaving them at home is"nt a bad thing either.
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Im dating a guy now and we have agreed we will both hunt the same weeks just not together. So we both get to hunt with our buddies and then get "our" time later. I hunt way more then him anyways lol

There are ways to work around everything.:cool:
 
Leave her at home if you are hunting with your buddies, because they probably won't be your buddies by the end of the hunt.
 
Red foreman said:
I agree leave her at home come hunting time.Seriously if she freaked out over a pickeral (an ugly but tasty fish)what is she going to do if you or one of your hunting buds shoots a beautiful bambi?How are you going to feel if she goes off on a PETA rant on one of your hunting buddies that bags a deer.
Either you would lose your hunting buddy or your girlfreind depending on which side you take.Not worth the aggravation.Take her out "hunting" and camping with a camera.

If your talking about just you and her going you could try with some small game.Maybe some grouse if she can handle that try her on something cute,like some "bunnies".Little steps might bring her around.

My old lady was the same way,I leave her at home.She'll eat the moose and deer I bring home but wants nothing to do with how it gets there.I'm pretty sure she's just pretending to herself that it came from the grocery store.
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could also lose your welcome at the hunt camp aswell if it was the wrong person she went off on.
 
Tell the guys what you are thinking about, and invite them to your place, for a camp meeting, with her present.
If she can hack the kind of stuff the guys will talk about at such a meeting, it may not turn out too bad.
To be fair, the guys should have the last word on her coming anyway, as they would on any new camp member or guest.
 
migrant hunter said:
I fantacize about meeting a women gun nut, who hunts/handloads/guts deer etc, but then I think do I really want to have a women who I can"t get away from? Imagine trying to sneak out hunting without her coming with you?
Maybe leaving them at home is"nt a bad thing either.
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Your fantasy is my nightmare. I married my wife because she is "girlie" and eats wild game. She doesn't like to get dirty so other than an occasional evening duck hunt, she doesn't want to go. She can't stand to see the animal cleaned but does pony up to work around the carcasses hanging in the garage. She loves bear and deer and moose and grouse and I have a few recipes for duck and goose she likes. I have to cook it though (which is okay since my other hobby is cooking).

Having her on the hunt full time? Forget it. September to November is MY time. She gets me at her beck and call the other nine months.
 
sjemac said:
Your fantasy is my nightmare. I married my wife because she is "girlie" and eats wild game. She doesn't like to get dirty so other than an occasional evening duck hunt, she doesn't want to go. She can't stand to see the animal cleaned but does pony up to work around the carcasses hanging in the garage. She loves bear and deer and moose and grouse and I have a few recipes for duck and goose she likes. I have to cook it though (which is okay since my other hobby is cooking).

Having her on the hunt full time? Forget it. September to November is MY time. She gets me at her beck and call the other nine months.
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Sept to november,man what about fishing season lol.
 
Jimbobob08 said:
My girlfriend is very girly and doesn't like to see animals die, or blood but wants to spend time with me at my camp:confused:

I landed afew really nice pickeral this weekend and she nearly cried because I wouldn't let them go, then she nearly threw up when I cleaned them then wouldn't eat any when I fried them up (Damn they were good to, getting hungry just thinking about them!) and she wants to spend time at my camp during hunting season. She'd probably have a heart attack if I shot bambi :eek:


Anyone ever have this problem before? Is there anything that can help the situation or will she just get over it?
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Ya bro.

In all my hearts honesty...and no, its honesty, your posting this on a public forum, so I am just saying... i've been there, and done that... and I usually "myself" found out this "anti" #### before I even ask em out, or they me... I say, if you can make her change, then all the power to ya.. but if she is going to get the paw in your pride and make you feel uneasy about your sport "OUR HERITAGE" then #### her, and kick her to the curb and find a real woman! ;)

"and for the record, I have yet to find a real woman as of late, which is why I am wise and single but willing to mingle :dancingbanana:"
 
northwoodslivin said:
In all my hearts honesty...and no, its honesty, your posting this on a public forum, so I am just saying... i've been there, and done that... and I usually "myself" found out this "anti" s**t before I even ask em out, or they me... I say, if you can make her change, then all the power to ya.. but if she is going to get the paw in your pride and make you feel uneasy about your sport "OUR HERITAGE" then f**k her, and kick her to the curb and find a real woman! ;)
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I lost a girlfriend once due to a harbour seal and short handled sledge hammer -- never a good combination.

She was always a bit of an anti and I guess that was the last straw for her. Which is puzzling since the incident was all her fault.
 
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