If you have the money to be buying guns like that and it's more of a "hey now why are you spending so much on stupid guns" I'd say good luck and have fun with the new toys. If you are buying guns instead of paying off credit cards you have a problem.
Dangerous Gun Story!!
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NolanOsborn
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While I am in a relationship, I'm only 20 and far from married.
Just bought three rifles this month. A close married friend of mine gave me this advice " buy all the guns and toys you want now, cause as soon as you have a joint account you are S.O.L"
Obviously doesn't apply to everyone, but I may as well stockpile before I have a wife/kids/house/mortgage.
Just bought three rifles this month. A close married friend of mine gave me this advice " buy all the guns and toys you want now, cause as soon as you have a joint account you are S.O.L"
Obviously doesn't apply to everyone, but I may as well stockpile before I have a wife/kids/house/mortgage.
Nolan, that is a wise move, but you'd be well advised to maintain a "reserve" that only you know about - for when you eventually move into that long term relationship.
everybody needs money that is their own, joint checking account or not. Money that they are not accountable to the other party for.
Here's a tip from an old dog: maintain completely separate accounts, but be joint on all of them in case either of you die. Divide your monthly bills into "his'n hers" and each pays their assigned bills. This way, what is left over in yours, you can spend as you wish because you've covered your obligations for the month. This works both ways and works best when both have their own money coming in.
Geoff
Did you not mention that you sold one of your surplus firearms to generate cash to purchase one you wanted? There may be time, before the new arrives, to casually mention that.
Occassionly we trade firearms and the firearm knocking on your door may just be one of those. . . "Oh Honey, that gun I traded for the old one should be showing up at the door any day now. You don't mind signing for it if I'm not home, huh"? . .
Occassionly we trade firearms and the firearm knocking on your door may just be one of those. . . "Oh Honey, that gun I traded for the old one should be showing up at the door any day now. You don't mind signing for it if I'm not home, huh"? . .
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- East ontario
just do what i do , marry someone why take you for who you are.
I buy my stuff she buys hers.
Its only an issue when we dont have money.
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I buy my stuff she buys hers.
Its only an issue when we dont have money.
bbb
That is how I have always managed my finances. I never understood why people would combine all their money? She should have her account and you yours. Then one joint account to pay for all bills. Both people put equal (if you make it that way, depends on incomes) to the joint account and what you have left over is yours to spend.
OK? Ready for a scary frickin situation!?
Yesterday the wife wants me to pull up the bank statement... the online thingy.
Man I was s**tting my pants!! I've managed to buy 7 guns this summer, when I'm supposed to be in a No-Buy-Guns-Situation. I've damn near got the purchases swept under...
So I pulled up the banking website and I'm like, trying hard to swallow...
"We owe what!?"
"What's this!?"
"Where was that money spent!?"
"Why haven't you paid this (card)!?"
"Let me see that account!!"
Blah, blah, blah...
And by the grace of the Great Hunting God, she missed the transactions that woulda sunk my boat!!
But I might be doomed anyhow. Last week Gun #7 was purchased; a CZ-97B. Seemed like a good thing until I realized after-the-fact, that since it's restricted, it has to be delivered to the door. I don't see how I'll ever be able to hide that one... I have maybe a 1 in 10 chance of getting away with it...
heh heh, been in similar situations myself...
OK, listen up really close because I can get you through this if you do exactly as I say.
1. Go online on the Canada Post website and put a hold on your residential mail. It will take 3 days to take effect if you do it online, or 5 days if you do it in person at the post office. It will cost about $20 and will show up on your credit card statement if you do it online.
2. Check at the post office every few days until you get your pkg. When you receive the article, take the hold off your mail. You may need to apply for a transport permit, and depending on your province the CFO could usually issue a temp transport permit in a few hours. Have them email it to you. OR it is my belief that if you do not open the pkg until you get home it is still legal to transport without a permit from the PO to your residence, since you are only picking up a pkg addressed to you, handled legally by Canada Post, who do not require a transport permit. Take that as you will.
3. When you "need" to buy a gun, tell her. What you are doing now is cheating her financially, lying about it to boot, even when you have agreed not to make any more purchases. You will pay for it many times over if (when) she discovers what you're doing, and obviously she's already starting to question your money management. Slipping in 1 or 2 little purchases a year is one thing, what you're doing is a bit over the top and you already know that, right??
Don't ask me how i know all this stuff, just understand i have been down this road a few times myself. Good luck!
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Oh this is good advice
this is where I am at with my wife. We discuss most purchases, I'll tell her that in the nest 3 months I'm going to buy X, and its should cost about $--, now if we have other purchases she might say can you put that off for another month or 2 and then we negotiate.
Right now we have spent $17K on kitchen renos, $30K on a new truck for her, and I have not bought a new firearm for about 10 months. (unless you count that dewat sten I just bought
) But she knows that I will be buying a new pistol in the next few months... but I may have to renegotiate that now that I bought that sten. its all about comunicating, and I don't tell her she can't buy someting, and she won't tell me that I can't buy something. you just have to be reasonable about it.
Oh and P.S. Your so Boned when she catches you
I went further; I spent $110 and bought a second post office box. I get all my stuff sent there, for the last year.
The first 6 guns all went to the Super Secret second post office box!
That's where I ran into the 'snag', cuz' this latest gun is a restricted weapon, it has to be delivered to the door. Never thought about that when I submitted the order!
See that's why I figure I'm up s**t creek with the wife. No way to hide it unless with a LOT of luck, the thing arrives Friday, when I'm off, and IF I can intercept the delivery guy.
Like I said, maybe 10% chance of pulling it off.
The first 6 guns all went to the Super Secret second post office box!
That's where I ran into the 'snag', cuz' this latest gun is a restricted weapon, it has to be delivered to the door. Never thought about that when I submitted the order!
See that's why I figure I'm up s**t creek with the wife. No way to hide it unless with a LOT of luck, the thing arrives Friday, when I'm off, and IF I can intercept the delivery guy.
Like I said, maybe 10% chance of pulling it off.
My first wife complained once about the money I spent on this stuff, my reply was... "it's cheaper then a mistress".
My second wife loves gun and hunting stuff almost as much as I do, so she only complains if I don't buy two of something. And it's sure handy having an extra set of eyes at a gunshow.
My second wife loves gun and hunting stuff almost as much as I do, so she only complains if I don't buy two of something. And it's sure handy having an extra set of eyes at a gunshow.
