Would you hide a loan from your wife to buy a gun?

Seriously. Don't do it. You would be deceiving her. Just tell her what you told us. I want this rifle, I can get a loan through SISIP at work. It's a no credit check, comes right off my pay kinda loan. Its 80 bucks a pay, I wouldn't even notice it. Just ask her. I know I would rather ask my wife then her be pissed at me. Trust me, pick your battles. Money is one of the things that break most couples up and cause more divorces then anything else. Don't be a statistic.
 
CompBoy said:
Okay so $1500 taxes then you want to add an interest rate to the rifle while also lying to the person you swore to love, honour and cherish. It's up to you.
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SISIP loans are no interest. So it would just be borrowing 1500. It's like the CF Canex Plan. We can get a no interest loan for up to 6500 for items from Canex. Either in 12 24 or 36 month terms. RCMP, and DND Civilians also get this perk.
 
I am really sorry for everyone here who sees his marriage as little more than some sort of power struggle, or perceives his wife as the "old millstone around his neck" whose main goal in life is to prevent him from having any fun. It's too bad you have never been able to live with someone you actually love.

To ask whether or not you should deliberately lie to your wife about where the money goes is an admission of a complete failure to understand what a marriage should actually be. That's just sad.
 
Leeworthy said:
SISIP loans are no interest. So it would just be borrowing 1500. It's like the CF Canex Plan. We can get a no interest loan for up to 6500 for items from Canex. Either in 12 24 or 36 month terms. RCMP, and DND Civilians also get this perk.
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Okay even ignoring the interest on a purchase I'm concerned about the willingness to lie to your wife.
 
"I'm sorry baby, but I've found... another rifle. We've been sneaking around a bit, I've been admiring photos of her online."

Anyhows, don't hide stuff like that from your wife. As has been stated before, very very bad idea. When I was buying my Tavor I told the fiance (Admittedly after much soul searching and inner debate) about it, explained what it was, that I had the mortgage paid for and that I'd sold a few other toys to finance most of it. She okayed it, and thank God never asked how much it cost exactly. Now with the wedding coming up I'm trying to think of how to justify an RFB.

The SKS I didn't ask about. It was cheap.
 
i hide portions in the cost of a "renovation" my wife wants.

we had a bathroom reno to do and during that time some costs were "mis-attributed"

its my only liberal personality fault/trait
 
Taking out a loan to buy a rifle is a bad sign, doing it under the table is worse. It's one thing to spend the money you have earned and banked, but another thing to borrow on that without telling your spouse.
 
promac said:
Buy the rifle if that's what you want to do. Don't feel compelled to sell something else to mitigate the impact. Be completely transparent and you won't run into any trust issues. Your wife is not your mother, nor your master...........it is folly to ask permission. Permission will only affirm a master-servant relationship.
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I think we're on the same page here....it's nice not having your nuts in a jar on a shelf.
 
If you get a loan to buy a 338LM, you will need the same size loan to put decent optics on it and another loan half the size to get components and reloading gear that is up to the range that thing can shoot.
 
When I want a new gun, I let her know that I am buying it. The way I do it is tell her that I need 2 guns, It is going to cost this much, and her compromise for me is to buy 1 gun now, and the other one later. ;)
 
Just tell her you WANT THAT particular gun. Then tell her that is like having another purse or handbag - not needed but desired. Mine does not protests much - she just want assurance that today this is THE gun I REALLY WANT to have and it is not an impuls. Further, play that it is investment, better than most saving accounts, mutual funds or stocks. If she listens to you, you have good wife, if she does not listen you have problem...
 
Awesome thread. As a 'relatively young' man who's been trying to figure out what relationships are about, who can pay attention and think at the same time, I think there's lots of good perspective here. My 0.02$...

A loan for a toy? ...me, I like to own them outright, so I save up.

Lie to the wife? ...gosh, I'd like to think that in any relationship worth my time we each get to do what we like to independently (she like shoes? fine. I like rifles? fine. at least we each know what to buy the other if we're feeling generous...), as long as it doesn't screw up something else, pls see re: loan, above), BUT if it's completely your loan, go ahead and hang yourself...

Managing a wife's desire to control you? ...gosh; having them realize, without deception, honest and upfrontly, that you are your own person (sovereign!), and will not stand for your sh1t getting f@cked with, thank you very much, is a priceless thing. Being underhanded about it, I think, is aiming low. Not bold?=No balls. Leads to more crap later.

Heck, it seems to me as I move through this life that they'll respect you more if you let them know... "This.Is.The Deal."

But a loan for a gun? This I do not comprehend...I like to own my rifles outright.

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Only if you're getting a divorce anyway.

But don't be afraid to mention to your wife about your buddy, who is restoring an old muscle car. Oh yeah, it's gorgeous. Rebuilt engine, newer 5-speed tranny, AC, beautiful paint, redone interior, sweet sound system, hot new wheels and tires, looks awesome. I would looooooove to do that. It's cost him $20 grand so far, and he did a lot of work himself. Maybe I should give up guns and switch hobbies . . .
 
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