I use a HeavyBuffers .com A/T kit. Yes, the company's name is "HeavyBuffers".
I run a piston kit so I got an A/T bufferfor good measure, but only have one lower so I use it with all my AR upper including DI.
It's weight adjustable so I've played with the tuning. So far I dig 6oz for all my DI uppers.
If my info is correct, a 9mm buffer is over 8oz, you don't need to go that heavy.
A T2 would be a step in the right direction at 4.3oz, but if I was going to spend that much, I'd probably get a HeavyBuffers HSS @ 6.5oz.
An H3 at 5.4oz would be a good sweet spot I think, but I'm not sure where to get one. If you look into HeavyBuffers, I think they offer custom weights if you ask for it.
I've been playing with buffers a lot lately, tuning the timing in my rifle build so this subject is fresh in my mind.
I like heavy buffer because, for one, the brass will cast behind me at 4 o'clock, which means it will mostly stay on the shooting desk instead of being chucked out in front of the shooting line where I can't get it till ceasefire, and have to hunt for it in the snow and/or grass.
Also, I'm a reloader, I find that the advanced timing is not only easier on the brass, but it also give the combustion time to reduce making for easier extraction and less blowback.
So, my rifle runs just a bit cleaner, and my brass lasts longer.
There is no rush, your rifle WILL work with the standard buffer, but it will defiantly run more aggressively and wear faster (in theory).
You know you're too light when you get extractor slip FTE's, and they say if your brass is casting earlier then 3 o'clock then you timing to too lean.