Are you referring to WWI or WWII?
These details are often left out of official accounts of wars as seedy. My own maternal grandmother was a war bride, but none of us like to think about our grandparents as young, ###ual people. And every one of the fighting men thought each encounter could be his last. These are important details for subsequent governments who feel war is not a last course of action.
This extends to accurate descriptions of trench raids and CQ fighting in forward trenches. Most of what we see as the years pass is beautiful monuments. I'm sure that's what the vets wanted to take away from the fighting and they're entitled to it.
Accurate details of what is involved in meeting an enemy nose-to-nose is an important deterrent to those who wish to stir up conflict in following years.
We are in danger of losing the perspective of the individual, which is why I started this thread. I wanted to discuss individual perspective.
Its hard to find truly graphic first hand accounts of actual combat. There are books with fairly vivid descriptions though. I've known many vets from WW1, WW2, and Korean fighting and most of them were/are very reticent about describing the experiences of actual combat, even though they went through it. A number of people that I knew were in the thick of it and all were universally grateful that they survived. It is a very traumatizing and private experience which was super-imposed on the physical conditions under which they lived and survived. Soldiers in the front line were constantly stressed from sleep deprivation, irregular and poor food, cold/hot, rain/snow/mud, physical fatigue, inadequate and dirty clothing, seeing friends killed/wounded, alternating boredom and terror, to say nothing of constant fear and anxiety and the sights and sounds of actual fighting. Perhaps the most vivid first-hand accounts I've heard were from a Korean vet who shot a Chinese soldier in the face and from another guy who was bayoneted in the groin. A WW2 tank crewman I knew had been blown out of several Shermans and somehow kept going back. No medals for him, but a hell of a lot of courage and devotion to admire. Same thing when talking to bomber crewmen who managed to survive their 30 missions over Germany. They had a pretty clean war with lots of leave, good food, and fairly acceptable accommodations, but a lot of stress and anxiety... right up until the time that they saw a friend's aircraft, and everybody in it, vaporized by a burst of flak.
I think most combat vets tried very hard to get it behind them and carry on with life as best they could. Many suffered their own recurring experiences with flashbacks and nightmares. Some took to the bottle to ease the pain, others turned out to be wife/child beaters, and some just couldn't participate in having a normal life and job. A lot of the guys would focus on distractions like leaves, ladies, and humorous tales about army life and various personalities and places they encountered. The other dimension is that the experience of combat is intensely personal and too distressing for many to recall and share, so they choose to repress it. Also, a lot of people just are not sufficiently articulate to explain it to others. Time tends to heal things and folks tend to forget the bad and emphasise the brighter things. One thing they all came away with was an aversion to war and counsel to avoid it.
In spite of all of the personal experiences about the horrors of war, each generation seems doomed to experience and learn about it for themselves. Maybe a lot of it is about the wisdom and insights which only come from ones actual life experiences, rather than learning from others. Unfortunately we seemed doomed to repeat the lessons of history. Technology may change, but human nature and human frailties do not. Political and religious leaders who want to loose the dogs of war really don't dwell too much on the impact that it will have on their people. A war needs "selling", and we hear euphemisms like surgical strikes, high-tech, short-term, precision weapons, casualty avoidance and, of course, demonization of the opposition, which somehow makes it all easier to swallow. Perhaps one of the good things about today's world is that images and communications are so rapid and available that this tends to be something of a deterrent to war, at least within the popularly elected democracies. Yet we still see the sorrowful events unfold in the former Yugoslavia, various African countries, and the middle east.