All good man.
I feel for you.
I'm wondering if maybe a network of retails could be established when someone like you ships said item to say a,store like ours and the store does the full check of ID card number and makes thr person sign for it.
For a fee.
You would video. Signed documents, and verified ID.
And if it was fraud thrn the ability to call the police on the spot
A possible network of business's that could ship high value items to a dealer nearer the purchaser. Have the item picked up in person by the purchaser. Bit of a pain , although would cut down on this JMO