I have a S&W M39 DAO that has close to 20K through it. I replaced the recoil springs in it twice. Not because they were worn out but I changed the ammo I was using in it.
I recently had the pistol re chromed in hard shiny black, like it was when it was original. I will also state I've changed the barrel out with a non prohib length unit from Bits of Pieces, which was IMHO prohibitively expensive but I like the pistol.
The thing is, this pistol has an aluminum/titanium frame with a steel slide.
OK, here's how it works. Semi auto pistols need to be PROPERLY MAINTAINED in an ongoing and proactive manner. If you decide to change ammo and for whatever reason the pressures have changed in a noticeable manner. If this occurs, get a stronger recoil spring. Some pistols, like the CZ Shadow have kits available for them with replacement buffers and different weight springs just for this reason.
The real biggie is lubrication. There are some great synthetic, greaseless lubricants out there and if you're competing, I would likely be using them exclusively in quantity. Seeing as I'm not competing and a bit of a traditionalist I use an off the shelf, waterproof, Lithium based grease from the auto lube section at CT.
I also don't shoot heavy bullets/loads through my pistols. I have a lot of the surplus 9x19 that Canada Ammo had for sale a few years back. It was shipped to my door for about half what I could hand load it for and the brass was reloadable. It wasn't HOT but it was hotter than my handloads and the commercial stuff I was using. All 115 grn fmj. Still, I had a slightly stronger spring for the S&W and CZ. However, this stuff was perfect for the WWII Spanish, German and Canadian 9mms in the safe.
Proper springs and proper lubrication are the key to longevity.