I do not lube the exterior of the neck or the shoulder. However, if I am at the range, I clean the outside of the neck of each fired
case with fine steel wool to remove any carbon on the neck. It is very easy to remove if freshly fired.
When I am ready to FL size the case, I dip and roll the neck in powdered graphite [An old pill container ¾ full of #8 shot plus about
a tablespoon of powdered graphite] I then gently wipe off the lube on the outside of the neck, leaving the inside lubed.
The body I usually lube with Imperial sizing wax. A pass through the die, clean off the lube, ready to go.
The nice thing about the powdered graphite is: No lube dents on the shoulder of the case, even if you leave a bit on the outside.
I have never damaged a neck in any way using this method. I avoid the ugly lube dents on the shoulders, and the expander button
pulls through the sized neck without undue force being needed. Dave.