I have small hands (some women's small size gloves are too big) and can't seem to find a good 9mm or larger caliber to fit me nicely either.
I just bought the Makarov .380 and quite like the size, (only been out to the range twice with it so far) but the grips are not all that comfortable, and i'm trying to find some rubber grips for it...I can't say if the rubber grips will make it too large though.
Everything else was a little too big, even the M&P with the smallest backstrap was still a little large feeling.
For now, I'm sticking with my Ruger Mark III standard...It fits perfectly and I love shooting it.