Grew up on the farm with a Winchester 37A in .410. Used it on ruffies and snowshoe hares for years.
Wouldn't say that I hate the .410, as it is still fun to hunt ruffies with.
Now have a Cooey 84 and a Marlin 336 in .410 (haven't had a chance to shoot the Marlin yet).
Also have a Cooey 84 and a Winchester 37A in 28 ga, although the Cooey has now been gifted to my daughter. These work very well on ruffies. I just like the 28 better, and am glad for the extra punch for sharptails and blues at longer distances. My wife finds the recoil of the Cooey 84 to be more than she expected, as it is much lighter than the Winchester.
Also have a Remington Sporting 28 that is a lot of fun to shoot and hunt with. Just ordered the Benelli Ethos in 28 ga!
Between the two, I now prefer the 28. But if I had never had the chance to shoot and own a 28, I would still be using the .410 on grouse. I know friends that use the 12 ga on ruffies, but find that it is just too much for the birds we hunt here. Not much left of the breast on the closer birds.