My wife has small hands and she shoots a Bearcat and a Browning 22-1911. She likes the ergos on them and do not feel a need for a larger calibre because of recoil. I tried convincing her to go up to the Browning 1911-380 which is the exact same gun as the 22-1911 except in 380 but she had a bad experience with my Walther PPK with slide bite, recoil and muzzle blast from the short barrel being a Prohib. If your wife wants a larger calibre than a .22, the Makenov is a restricted .380. You can't really beat a 9x17 in a single stack for size with any 9mm pistol.
For a 9mm, the ergos on the Tokarev TT is not that great but the grip is skinnier and smaller than a 1911. It makes my 1911 in 9mm and Browning Hi Power feel like tanks. In a side by side comparison, I would say that the Tokarev grip is a 1/4 to 1/3rd smaller than the 1911. The gun is all metal so it helps with recoil but many do not like the square grip. Norinco sells a copy with a much more comfortable rubber grip. All I did with mine is put a rubber grip sleeve over it and at a $200 price tag, I find little to complain about it... Oh wait, the 7.62x25 ammo is pricy, which is why I bought one in 9mm (Zastava m70a).