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Would you hide a loan from your wife to buy a gun?
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we don't know the whole story, maybe the wife has hang ups about guns, maybe she was treated poorly by her dad and he threatened her mom with a gun (extreme but possible), or maybe she is controlling, we haven't a clue boys. Don't think insulting her or the op will help the lad out. She reads these posts and will get pissed if she is being dragged threw the mud by us, no way to treat a fellow enthusiast.
don't lie to your wife, hope you get your gun and your wife settled. A no interest loan would be the smartest way to buy the gun, anytime you can use others money, when you can use your own, is just good $$ sense.
don't lie to your wife, hope you get your gun and your wife settled. A no interest loan would be the smartest way to buy the gun, anytime you can use others money, when you can use your own, is just good $$ sense.
1: Buy the gun.
2: Tell her you bought the gun.
3: Deal with the fallout like a man.
Way more straightforward, no interest, no lying, no having to justify the lie when you get caught, which one way or another you will.
2: Tell her you bought the gun.
3: Deal with the fallout like a man.
Way more straightforward, no interest, no lying, no having to justify the lie when you get caught, which one way or another you will.
This:
-Never finance toys, or any other depreciating asset.
-Anything remaining after your share of household expenses has been met is yours to spend as you wish.
Personally, I'll take nice toys over emasculation any day.
-Never finance toys, or any other depreciating asset.
-Anything remaining after your share of household expenses has been met is yours to spend as you wish.
Personally, I'll take nice toys over emasculation any day.
x2 My wife and I don't ever ask "permission", rather, just let each other know what's happening with purchases, social events, etc. When it looks like our paths will cross or there might be a schedule conflict, we'll discuss it like 2 reasonable people. In my case, I've decided that I more-or-less have "enough" guns, and at this point in my life, a finite amount of free time. So, wanting a new gun means I'll be shooting 1 or more of my other ones less because of it. So, get rid of one, add/get a little money to make it happen and all is well. I don't ever deceive...or lie to my wife, but also don't feel the need to mention any purchases that are consumables like ammunition..or bits like scope rings/slings/cleaning gear etc. She feels the same way about the small stuff too. Having said ALL that, I know that a $1500 rifle would be a "lets sit and discuss this" item in our house...just not that kind of cake laying around. I'd sure never set money aside secretly, but might tell her that I'm REALLY keen on adding the thing to my collection, and will be willing to make some sacrifices to make it happen. (sale of other crap I'm not using, earn some extra $ another way so it doesn't impact family finances, etc.)
She okayed it? Who is she to okay it? Your master?
A marriage/relationship is a partnership. Both of you should set realistic goals, where your financial obligations and responsibilities are well defined and set out. In doing so, you can both afford yourselves a reasonable amount of discretionary cash flow to reward yourself for your hard work. Expenditure size is moot - death can come by a thousand cuts. Stay on track and buy whatever you see fit. Otherwise, who are you busting your arse for? Tax collectors and your spouse? What incentive is there in that? Sounds like slavery to me........and life is too short for that.
Now, if you have to deviate from your planned course of action and won't meet your goals, you should talk to your spouse about that - not about what you want to buy. What is important to each of you will be of little importance to the other who will never accept the basis for the deviation - so why bother.
We always find out.
.......and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.......amen.
Your CGN handle used to be the "pet" name I had for my daughter. As an infant, she'd lie on her back with her arms pumping in and out like you wouldn't believe, so I'd call her "Pump'n Squigs" which eventually became "Squigs", and then "Bumble-Bee".
Re: Loan vs wife
I guess it's a matter of priorities; who's more important? What is more important? How would you feel if the shoe were on the other foot? It may not seem timely, but fundamentally this is the golden rule giving you a chance to choose again. All you need do is remember that choices follow the law of the boomerang; whatever you throw out comes back again someday, only moreso!
Good Luck!
I guess it's a matter of priorities; who's more important? What is more important? How would you feel if the shoe were on the other foot? It may not seem timely, but fundamentally this is the golden rule giving you a chance to choose again. All you need do is remember that choices follow the law of the boomerang; whatever you throw out comes back again someday, only moreso!
Good Luck!
saskgunowner101
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I can understand a partner voicing their concern over an expensive item, but seriously, are they your master?? If when you met your wife you told her you would decide what she would be doing with her money down the road, that she had to "okay it" with you, even if it was her hard earned money, where would she be??
Not with you, because that would be seen as being a controlling ####. Why should you expect that treatment? If you want a rifle, earned the money, and the bills are paid, why not?
Not with you, because that would be seen as being a controlling ####. Why should you expect that treatment? If you want a rifle, earned the money, and the bills are paid, why not?
Glock4ever
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- Edmonton, AB
I would never borrow money to pay for a gun - I say just talk to her honestly and buy it. You said that you can afford it so don't put yourself in a position to fight about something more then just a rifle...
You know that everytime you are paying with a credit card, you are taking a loan aka credit to buy your item, its not until you put a payment towards that credit card for the full amount that was loaned out, that it becomes reconciled. So symantically speaking, you are taking out a loan
, in which case you do this all the time, and therefor do not need permission.HOw I justify it is, the more guns I buy with my credit card, the more aeroplan miles I accumlate to buy her a vacation.
Take it from a guy who's been married 8 years...
She probably buys things for herself more frequently but spends less...which probably averages out the same as you buying less frequently but spending more...
Its only a lie if questioned about it. I have a M&P40 that was picked up last summer on the QT. Buy the time it comes out ill be able to say no ive had it for a long time.
Good luck
Its only a lie if questioned about it. I have a M&P40 that was picked up last summer on the QT. Buy the time it comes out ill be able to say no ive had it for a long time.
Good luck
LOL, ya. If she doesn't keep tabs on all the firearms you own, you could easily pull something off like that. Now I'm not advocating lying to her, but for something as trivial as this you may as well.
